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Dad's end of journey

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Hi all, as I started the journey with my dad in this forum 4 years ago,I think it was worthy to finish it here as well, taking a moment to thank all of you that helped me to go through this journey and find the best treatments for my dad.

My dad was more than 3 years on ADT + Zytiga+ Prednisone and his life quality was more or less fine until one year ago, when lung Mets were discovered.

He passed away last Tuesday and our hearts are completely broken. He had brain metastasis due to complications of his adenocarcinoma turning to a neuroendocrine diferenciation.

Even we tried our best, dad broke his hip so he was not eligible for receiving docetxactel either

Thanks so much for all your support and your help during this journey

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My sincere condolences.

Sometimes people start asking “what if” and tourture oneselves. Do not go in that direction - this disease is different for everyone and you did what you could and stood by him.

As for grieving - take it one day at a time. Remember the good times and find consolation in fact that your father knew he was loved.

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Greatfaith in reply to MyDad76

My sincere condolences to you and your family. God Bless you all.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please try to look after yourself now as your father would want you too.

I am so sorry for your loss! We all have to travel this journey and leave loved ones behind. Rejoice that all will reunite one day!

It is always sad when one of our own passes

He suffers no more. May peace be upon you and your family . Our deepest condolences.

I’m sorry. Peace be with you and your family in the weeks and months ahead.

Once again, a sad heart as we lose another aPca brother. Bless you for your loving care through the bad times. Now it's time to get together with his old friends and family and remember the best of years past.. Memories are priceless.

My deepest heartfelt condolences to you …. The sadness of another fallen warrior … I hope your heart mends soon in these sunny spring days. A big warm fuzzy hug out to you.

❤️❤️❤️

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Lulu700 in reply to Kaliber

I love you Dusty! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌵

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Kaliber in reply to Lulu700

I love you too my amigo, you da bomb …. ❤️❤️❤️ 😁😁

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Lulu700 in reply to Kaliber

Thank you brother! ❤️❤️❤️

I'm so sorry to hear of his passing. I know how hard you tried. I'm sure the last year was not easy for you or him. Hopefully, there will someday be better therapies.

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Noel91 in reply to Tall_Allen

Thanks Tall_Allen.I much appreciate all your help during this journey I really hope you can keep helping people here.If I was able to help my dad was because people like you teaching me about best treatments.

There's no tougher loss than one of a parent. God bless him and you. Thank you for posting his treatments over the years, it's helpful to those of us on the same path.

He was so lucky to have you by his side with all that he went through. Covid made it even more difficult. I am sorry for your loss.

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DarrylPartner

Condolences

I am so sorry. It’s hard to let go after fighting so hard for so long. Where there is deep grief there was great love. I pray that in time, the pain of losing your Dad will be replaced with happy memories

Very sorry for your loss. May your dad rest in eternal peace.

I am so sorry for your loss ❤

God bless you all

Sorry for your loss, Noel91. I am new here, and am also caregiver for my dad. Knowing that you did your best, I feel that you should have no regrets. I'm glad that you found support from this group. Best wishes for you and your family going forward.

I am a stage 4 PC patient and I have a daughter much like you who does research, helps me decide my next treatment and most importantly spends lots of time hanging out with me. So allow me to tell you what you meant to your dad during these trying times. EVERYTHING!!!! You have no idea how much easier this disease is having a daughter like you to help. And one more thing…as a dad I can tell you with great certainty that you’re dad would be devastated if you spend time feeling guilty or looking in the rear view mirror trying to think of what you could have done differently. The greatest honor you can give us dads, is to do your best to move forward with your own life as best you can, realize how much you meant to us and accomplish all you desire with your own life. Take care.

Schwah

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Kaliber in reply to Schwah

Yes yes … well said .

👏👏👏❤️

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Brackenridge in reply to Schwah

Thank you for these words Schwah. I am a daughter who lost her Dad last summer after a nearly 20 year battle with PC and I miss him so much and do wonder “what if” although we did research, question, cajole, and try every treatment Dad could handle. I was greatly aided by this site and every single posting and advice given. I’m extremely grateful for everyone here.

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Schwah in reply to Brackenridge

Know your dad appreciated every last ounce of love and help from you. And now he expects you to live the life yiu were meant to live with no regrets!

Schwah

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Brackenridge in reply to Schwah

Thsnk you 💕💕💕

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Kiag in reply to Schwah

What a loving post !

I'm so sorry, your Dad's asleep now, no more pain, no more suffering or worry.

Take time for yourselves and think of all those happy times that you had before all of this happened.

Our love to you.

Phil

Your dad was way too young for this ending. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

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so very sorry for your lossyour love for your father was evident and he knew how much you cared--let that fill your heart with joy if you can because you did all you could for him and he loved you for it.

may you find peace and soon be able to smile and not cry when you think of your Dad

I’m so sorry for your loss!! Your Dad was lucky to have you helping him navigate his way through this horrible disease. Take comfort knowing he is at peace now no more suffering. Again my deepest condolences!!!

Heartfelt condolences. 🙏

May the love you all deserve be with you and yours,Noel91

I am truly sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences. You helped your dad at every step of his struggle, and I am certain it meant the world to him!

Noel, I can't add anything to all of the condolences that have already been offered...just the fact that you did everything that a loving daughter could do had to make this journey a bit easier for Dad!

So sorry, now is time to focus on the good times for lasting memories.

God bless you and your family, Dad's are so precious ❤ you loved him and cared for him.Try and think of your happy memories . Sincere condolences to you and your family love SheilaFxxx

Cry as much as you feel like and never feel that you should get over this or move on as some suggest with the best of intentions. We honour our parents by crying for our loss of the most important people in our lives. God bless you.

So sorry. ❤️

So sorry for your loss

My sincerest condolences.He was clearly very loved.

Look after yourself

I’m very sorry 🙏🏽

Gods peace to you...💐

I’m so sorry for your loss. I know your Dad was grateful to have had you helping him. Remember the good times and know he’s watching over you. I pray for your peace and comfort.

I am so sorry about the loss of your father. May he rest in eternal peace !

If I had a son, I would hope he would be so loving, caring and devoted to me as you have clearly been to your Father. Your Dad would be so proud of you. You are a good man. 😎 DD

I’m so sorry for your loss.

My sincere condolences for your dad loss - your dad was lucky to have you as an advocate - May he rest in peace now his suffering is over ❤️

I am deeply sorry to read about your loss.

Sending prayers, thank you for post, also your kindness. He was so fortunate to have you and his family's support. He end of days were so much better because of you and his family

So sorry for your loss. Mayhe rest in peace.

IM so sorry to hear of his passing. He was so blessed to have such a loving, courageous child to care for him. God Bless.

My condolences please. I wish you strength and fortitude to bear the loss

Thanks so much for writing your dad's final chapter. His journey has ended, but his life's memories will live on in you. Thank you for being there for him and for us.

I am so sorry for your loss.. your dad fought a great battle… he is now free from pain and suffering. Godspeed..

So sorry for your loss. 🙏🏻

My deepest condolences to you and your family. May you all find peace.

So sorry for your loss💙Your memories of him will help you through the grief

I’m sorry about the loss of your Dad. It is never easy to lose a loved one. Time is a healer, just keep his memory alive

My deepest condolences.

Heartfelt condolences to you & your family. I know what ure going through for I too have recently lost both parents, (aged 69 )in 4months after caring for them for 2yrs. It's heartwrenching but take heart in knowing though their light has been extinguished they live on in our hearts. It is only through prayers that the pain is diminished and the process of acceptance can began. God will grant you the necessary strength and comfort to pull through. All the best

Your Dad has completed his Camino, and you are still on yours, now bereft of his company and grieving his absence . I give thanks for his life, and all he gave you to make you the compassionate, caring person you are.

You are special with your love transcends in many lights of being there thought this rough journey my deepest but well place condolences to you and family and I’m so happy you were there that means a lot to him.May peace be with you and family continuing on.

My sincere condolences

Take care

Haniff

My sincere condolences. Another Brother taken.

So sorry for your loss may he rest in peace from this disease.

My condolences to you and your family! Sorry for your loss...

May you find peace knowing your father is no longer suffering - and is in heaven watching over you. Celebrate his life … you will always have the memories of all the wonderful times together. As a father, when my time comes, that’s what I want my kids to do.

With deepest condolences,

James

So sorry for your loss. May your Dads memory always be for a blessing.

Thank you for loving your dad, he certainly felt your love for him. All dads should be as lucky as he was to have you as his daughter.

So sorry for your loss!!!

May God bless you and your Dad. Peace.

Deepest condolences.

Sorry for your loss Noel. Hope that his life journey was full and complete, as it was filled with love. Thank you for telling us so we too can honor him and carry you and any who love him in our hearts. 💕🙏

Very sorry to hear of your loss and another brothers passing. Please take care.

So sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your family.

Your dad was very fortunate to have your love and support. May God rest his soul and comfort yours'.

Sorry for the passing of your dad. May he rest in peace.

May he Rest In Peace. And may you and all his caregivers find peace.

My condolences. You did your best but the beast we fight often wins the battle. You father is resting peacefully in God’s hands.

😔 May God bless your Father with eternal peace! This man eating heartbreaking disease is a hard end for a fine fellow. But we must look on his life and the good he did the love he had with you is all that matters.Love is eternal. 💔 I’m sorry for the suffering, but he suffers no more . Thank God! This is mercy in the end. Scott🙏🕊🕊

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Wishing you all the best.

My heart is with you ♥️

With deepest sympathy on the loss of your dear father.

I too am so sorry for the loss of your dad. Time helps ..... a little. My best of wishes for you and friends and family going forward.

Noel91,

It is never easy. Even when we expect death, we often think that death could have come later rather than now.

You have family. You have friends. Maybe clergy. Any or all can be helpful--or maybe not! At times we are our own best counselors and our thoughts, the thoughts that come from within us as we reflect on our lives are what can heal the most.

You say your hearts are completely broken. I understand. Look at one another. What you have written has shown what type of character your family has. Look at one another. You are the most valuable gifts that your father gave to each of you and to us as well.

Healing from a loss such as your loss is more about learning to live with the loss and accept it. We never "get over it". It takes time--it takes time --to learn to live with the loss.

Currumpaw

God bless you and your Family you are in my thoughts and prayers!

Sorry for Your Loss🙏

Sorry for your loss.

My deepest condolences. Today, he is with the Creator.

I am so sorry for your loss, too soon to lose a Dad😢😢

I am sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family.

Words are never enough at this time of life and death. I lost my dad as well in May. Prostate cancer and a broken hip. Hang in there warrior. Just remember all the good times. 🙏🙏🙏

Grief doesn’t go away, but it does change. It’s the price we pay for having loved. God be with you. I’m sure he is with your dad.

Dear Noel.............. Your dear Dad is like a ship passing me in the night. I have never met him, do not know his name but we shared the same love of our children and at the same time shared our pain and suffering of this damned disease. I always fantasize having a friendly non medical conversation with those brothers who have passed on. Many questions will remain unanswered until I hopefully meet him in the Angels gym. Will he think I'm funny? Have the same interest? Compare our upbringing? Compare worldly assets and liabilities? LOL Type of women we liked? And a million other things. Hopefully he's a talker.

Please think of him every day and that way he will live forever. Take care of yourself and "Zoe se sas".......

j-o-h-n Sunday 04/17/2022 10:02 PM DST

Sounds like your Dad was a loved and lucky man…so sorry for your loss…this is an awful disease but the people around us make all the difference. Hugs to you and somewhere, your Dad is proud and at peace.

My sincere condolences to you and your family. It’s always difficult to read of a loss. My prayers and my thought are with you.

So very sorry for your loss. Thankfully, he did have those good years while the treatment worked.

Praying that you find peace in knowing that you did all you could.

My condolences. May peace be upon him, you and on your family. Take care

RIP

My condolences to you and all the family circle at this sad time. Happy memories live forever

I'm a father with stage 4 PC, my daughter and son are both tremendous blessings to me, making my journey towards the end of life full of as much joy as sorrow. No one can stave off death for ever, but I'm sure your dad was full of pride and love for you and for the manner that you supported him.

Thanks, blessings and condolences

Noel91, may God grant your family strength, peace, and a joyful reflection of your father’s life. I will keep you and your family in prayer.

My deepest sympathies.

Sincere condolences to you and your family.🙏🏻

Lo siento mucho 💔...se por lo que has pasado y me imagino que ahora será muy duro pero recuerda su amor y llegará un momento que en vez que con tristeza le recuerdes con una sonrisa. Un abrazo muy fuerte!

Lo siento mucho mucho Noelia. Qué camino más difícil para estos hombres luchadores y sus familias. Muy duro. Sólo deseo que, en esta tristeza tan grande que debes sentir, los buenos recuerdos con tu padre te reconforten y pienses que estos años le has dado mucho. Te abrazo fuerte 🌹

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