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My dad, @hopingforthebest1

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I’ve been reading all the amazing comments on the post that  Trainer40 recently shared with the news of my dad’s passing on Saturday. To say how incredibly touched and honored I am would be an understatement.  HopingForTheBest1 was the strongest fighter I know and inspired so many along his journey to keep fighting and live your best life while you’re doing it. As my mom had the strength to share at his funeral, they lived more in the last 5 years since his diagnosis than than they had in the last 41 years of marriage.

When my dad knew he was nearing the end of the battle, I told him I wanted to write a book with him, for him, for you all and the many others that didn’t have the fortune of meeting my father but could be encouraged to live their best life by hearing his words.

I’d like to ask a favor. For those who have read my dad’s posts, connected with him or other, can you share your reflections of him and how he affected you in your own fight against cancer? We’d like to include a chapter of these reflections at the end of the book. And, as soon as this book is complete, I can’t wait to share this gift back with this group.

With much love and admiration for this community,

Shari

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Lettuce231 profile image
Lettuce231

How lovely 😍, I wish you all the best with your project.

What struck me was how calm and composed your Dad remained throughout. I certainly admired him for that, I don't know if I would handle the situation as well as he did.

Our love to you and your family.

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HopingDaughter in reply toLettuce231

Thank you so much. Lovely words to hear.

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NickJoy

What an amazing daughter, father and family. Thank you. I was always impressed and inspired by Hoping's calm determination. He never seemed to allow himself to get swept away on a fad but maintained the hope that something would help him and all of us. I wish you and your family all of the very best and you have my heartfelt condolences.

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HopingDaughter in reply toNickJoy

Very much appreciated and this is wonderful to hear. Let’s maintain the hope.

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dockam

This is a such a wonderful and beautiful way to memorialize Him💙

He was so loved and cherished on HU with his calm demeanor, determination and True Grit

May I add him to the Memorial Stone that I placed in Ventura, I'll be up there on Oct 21st

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I also still have Blue Bracelets from PCa Awareness Month that I will send you and Ohana

Me ke Aloha Pumehana - with warm Love

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Huge Hug💙

Randy

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HopingDaughter in reply todockam

Hi Randy,

Thank you so much for the kind words. Would absolutely love that.

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dockam in reply toHopingDaughter

Awesome, please PM me his name and an address for the bracelets. How many?

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I lost my Dad in 1995 from pancreatic cancer, he was only 67 :-(

With much Aloha and Love💙

Randy

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Yank66

What a lovely idea that will further healing for you and your mom. Your dad encouraged us ( and others) and spread hope with his posts. He understood the difficulties we face, but stayed positive and did not give into despair. Sometimes hope has been hard to find, but he helped us locate it. Blessings to you all.

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HopingDaughter

stay strong and hopeful Yank66 – thank you!

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Har036

I am not surprised that HopingForTheBest1 would have a daughter that would continue his legacy in a book. I always looked forward to reading your dad’s post because he always had something valuable to say. It’s interesting that his name Hoping spoke for the community. I’ve heard the word hope defined as the expectation for favorable change. I guess depending on what you believe his passing from this life to the next was a victory over prostate cancer!

Praying for your family in this season and I pray that your book will be as inspiring as your dad has been to us.

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HopingDaughter in reply toHar036

this response means so much to me, thank you

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Sunlight12

Hi Shari,

Thank you so much for coming here to share more about your Dad! I saw the news of his passing and was heartbroken - I remember him coming on here for the first time and his screen name catching my attention because it reflected such positivity. This disease takes too many men ..and too soon. I think we are getting there in terms of better treatments, but it is always gutwrenching when they don't arrive soon enough for the ones we care about.

My condolences on the loss of your Dad. Wishing peace to you and all who loved him!

What a wonderful tribute to your Dad to write a book about and for him! Very best of luck with it - I look forward to reading what you share in future!

Love to you and your family ❤️

In solidarity,

Sunlight

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j-o-h-n

To HD,

First of all I didn't know he had such a beautiful daughter and then of course there's you (OK computer guy - smiley devil face goes here).....Your dear Dad was a first rate gentleman!!! Inasmuch as you will be writing a book make sure I get mentioned in it (OK computer guy - clown face goes here). Just mention me as j-o-h-n.......and if you do I will definitely buy a copy (No need to place anything here, computer guy). Take care of Mom and yourself..... (question computer guy, do you have a love and kisses emoji?)

Good Luck, Good Health and Good Humor.

j-o-h-n Thursday 10/12/2023 4:46 PM DST

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garyjp9

Hello Shari, sincere condolences to you and your family. Your book will be a lovely and loving legacy. In the last post I saw from your father, he said your mom was encouraging him to eat all his favorite foods (including tuna noodle casserole, which I consider a great choice). A mutual friend visited your father about two weeks before he passed (Peter K). He said your dad was in good spirits and ATE 2 BOWLS OF ICE CREAM DURING THE VISIT ! Way to go, Carl! G

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