I hate ADD soooo much

[Tormented555]

One of the many things to hate about this damn brain disease is that you never know when it will strike - you never know when any random object is going to just suddenly disappear on you - "poof!" - no explanation, no logic, no reason, just - gone. Tear the place apart, nothing. Out of luck. What to do? Buy another? Go without? Tie everything to you on a string? You get used to going without and leading a provisional existence. It comes and goes, but it never quite disappears. I hate it sooooooo much

[MMoore86]

I feel your pain... This is me 24/7 always lost in my own world, and then hyper focus on someone I'm really into at the moment of course.. lol . So, yeah , I never what day it is , always late and loosing things.... ,, 😞

[Ampersand1]

There's hope for improvement, but I can 100% relate to the anguish I feel in your post. Nothing I can say that will make the feeling go away either sadly. I'm happy to share advice that's worked for me, but I just wanted to drop you this note to tell you you're not alone and that your frustrations are completely reasonable and genuinely make sense to me. Glad you did yourself the favor of seeking a place of support where others share your experience to some extent. This step you've taken, alone, is why I led my reply with "there's hope." <3

[STEM_Dad]

I hear ya. It's tough to live with.

It was even harder when I was undiagnosed, because I'm addition to the problems that my ADHD was causing, I just kept berating myself by saying, "why can't I just do things 'right', like other people!"

I've learned to have some self-acceptance and patience with myself, and more tolerance for my ADHD issues...but I still have the issues.

My current struggles are financial. I've got bills due, and I know that they will drop my bank balance to almost nothing...but I don't have any Christmas gifts for my kids yet, and I need some groceries. The struggles just never end.

My ADHD sometimes helps me solve work problems in a pinch, but other times throws a wrench into the works. It's so random.

[AlternativeLearner]

I feel your pain, Tormented555. It’s super frustrating to lose something when you really need it. Then, it’ll just pop up in the most random place somehow. I hope you find what you’re looking for.

[CMax3001]

You sound really frustrated. Sorry you feel like that. Can relate. Its hard accepting that some days thinking can be less reliable than on other days.

Remember its not a disease, its just a differently functioning brain, living in a world thats not built for it. Trick is finding the workarounds for its weaknesses and celebrating its strengths. There are strengths to add, its just not as recognised in a modern world.

Try being a bit kinder and gentler to yourself when things arnt working out as hoped. And approach it non judgementally like a maths problem, with a curious and trial and error. If you are trying your best thats the best you can do.

Be worth seeing if there is a pattern to your rough days. What did you eat that day, how much sleep, how much activity or work? Who did you see? There might be common factors you can see.