Hyper awareness

[TRILLMIND96]

Trying to deal with the over stimulation of my hyper awareness, its seems to keep getting me into situations with family and ones around me i keep bringing up the things people should be taking accountability from over the years and present taing the time to listen and process situations positive and negative in my life even when it comes to things that are personally affecting my life but someone around me it seems to get me in trouble an im made out to be a detriment to the situation(s)

[Eric_ElevateLearning]

It sounds like you have advice and ideas to help others, but your suggestions are not taken well. If I am correct about that, I wonder if the people you are trying to support are not ready to receive help from you.

Sometimes, when my fiance has a difficult day or a problem with a coworker, my first reaction is to offer advice. However, she does not want my advice. She only wants me to listen. When I am not sure if she is looking for advice, I ask her, "Do you need me to just listen or are you looking for my advice?"

I live by this rule: no one likes unsolicited advice, so always ask for permission before offering a solution.

When it comes to ADHD, reframing from speaking what is on our mind can be difficult. If we lack impulse control, sometimes we start talking without even thinking about how the person on the receiving end will feel. To combat this, I always count to five before I begin to share advice or a solution with someone. It gives them time to process and possibly add more to what they need to say while giving me a chance to consider whether or not my advice will be well received.

What do you think about all of this?