Feeling like my life is a lie

[BestPartOfMe]

I have recently come to terms that there is something wrong with me. I am not who I thought I was. I can clearly see the faces of my friends, co-workers and family when they become frustrated with me because I cannot complete simple tasks. I never thought there was actually something wrong with me.

I can’t even to begin to explain how much I have lost over the years.

I am desperately finding seeking answers and understanding

Lost and alone

[Wasted71years]

Hi BestPartOfMe

If possible get a good diagnosis - symptoms that reflect ADHD can also stem from other conditions - but in any case a proper diagnosis is the first step in self understanding and help making the rest of your life better.

[STEM_Dad]

Welcome to the forum BestPartOfMe !

An ADHD diagnosis can be a real eye-opener. For me, it made my whole life finally make sense.

There's usually some grieving, as we learn to understand ourselves in a new way. Two things we might wonder in response to the diagnosis are: "Why didn't anyone realize this before?" and "My life could have been so different!"

But we can't change the past. We can only look at the past, present, and future through a new lens.

After my ADHD diagnosis, I actually went through the grieving process pretty quickly, and came to the point of acceptance of myself as I am. I actually now embrace my neurodiversity. That's what I hope for everyone...to accept themselves as they are.

ADHD isn't all struggle...we can actually be very gifted in certain ways. For instance, I'm very empathetic, I love working on novel problems, and I'm good at out-of-the-box thinking. So, it's not all bad.

[Natural_Born_Carrie]

Therapy. I love therapy. I'm struggling myself right now. Bad. Keep missing appts. Losing track of time and space.

We're going the distance we're going for speed. Kk roof

[ADDSufferer]

find a therapist or psychologist and start there. You aren’t alone.