Innatentive ADD is ruining my life

[hollypocket5858]

I have what is considered "time blindness" and even though I'm constantly on my ass about it, constantly trying different strategies to fight it, and have lost multiple sources of income with it... it continues to ruin me.

I was prescribed Adderall, which made me a perfectionist to the point where my previous manager made multiple comments about a lack of common sense..

So I changed medication to Concerta which is FAR more tame in comparison, while still working. I was able to start getting to work in time but had to call in because of a tooth infection *yay ADD and poor dental health* and because of this, on top of being late with the Adderall, on top of this notion that I am lacking common sense- I was, of course, fired.

I have no idea what to do with my life.

I am told by multiple people that I'm intelligent but when it comes to the world of work, and figuring out my niche, I feel like a complete idiot.

I have gotten to the point where I don't have much confidence in myself, and if it weren't for having a young child, I'd just sell my little home and dump myself at my sisters front door and live without responsibilities because I have no fucking clue on what to do next.

I'm very close with my family and the second I start talking about my feelings, it's as if they forget I have ADD, Anxiety and Depression. I bring it up and they say "Arnt you on Meds for that? You shouldn't be this way if you're on medication." As if the medication just magically makes every symptom disappear!? My mom has chronic pain so I told her it's basically like taking vicodin for her pain, it does something but not enough to just make it stop.

Should the medication make it stop? Am I still treating this incorrectly if it's still affecting my life so much!?

I'm 29 years old, I have a kid, I should have my shit figured out by now. Instead, I'm job searching for jobs that I fear I'm just going to get fired from anyways, regardless of how decent of an employee I am when it comes to productivity... because that stuff doesn't matter. What matters is the way I convey myself, and being on time. Having common sense, keeping my head down, and being timely.

I'm so very exhausted of this brain I have. My sister tells me "You used to have confidence! You are so smart! Do something! Make those changes you've been talking about!"

Not realizing that making those changes, are for some stupid reason, so incredibly difficult for me. Its like walking with weights attached to my legs and arms... trying so hard to move forward but barely able to make a step..

Just needed to vent.

[HidinginSight]

You're not alone! I'm 31 and just barely starting to accept my diagnosis of adhd. I struggle with keeping in touch with friends and family. Always late and have gotten to the point that I say yes to everything and almost always fail to follow through. Try to be kinder to yourself and journal!

[99cents]

40s male here. Unofficial mild diagnosis recently, no meds yet.

That sounds awful. I think there's a lot of misconceptions about ADHD and medicines. Do you have someone who might be willing to research ADHD and help be an advocate Ave explain it?

I've been watching videos from how to ADHD YouTube channel. It'sclear that medication can help but not by itself. CBT and other therapy and skills building is important.

I told my manager that having ADHD is like having chronic silent asthma and wondering why everyone around you is having such a an easy time of physical activity. Realizing it's not normal to be tired after a half day of ordinary exertion. But if you lived in that world you might think it was normal and you just need to buck up.

ADHD has lots of misconceptions. Unfortunately it's hard to have to be your own advocate. But watching a lot of YouTube videos can help give you the words and analogies to describe it without coming up with them yourself.

I started with the YouTube channel "how to ADHD",. About the wall of awful and the motivation bridge.

Things I did before I even knew i had ADHD... I installed ad blockers. I installed a chrome addon called Distraction free YouTube. Other stuff too. Many many things.

Hopefully something helps but if not no worries

[secl7189]

I am 30, was diagnosed with anxiety and adhd at 8 years old, and I also suffer from /time blindness/ although I admit I never had a name for it until now. Just wanted to let you know you made me feel a little less alone tonight after a fight with my non-adhd husband who just doesn't get it.

[75ADHDgal]

First of all sounds like you need some medications for depression which often goes along with ADHD ( it is not longer call ADD by the way) Our brains are wired differently than others and no medications do not "cure" or stop the issues they only help us focus. funny I hated Concerta- could not sleep at night no matter how early in the day I took it - Changed to the lowest dose of long acting adderal 5 mg daily as needed. It helped. And as for "having it together by now "-don't fret many folks more than twice your age don"t have it together so to speak! And you did not say if you were seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. Both are needed for folks with ADHD. Psychiatrist to give meds- most don't do any therapy these days - therapist for counseling and threapy- Also ADHD support group and Cognitive behavioral therapy would help. When you see these folks also you can get covered under the Americans for Disabilities act - ADA and that helps with employment -

I too have time issues ! In past years I used to be hours late for things - Now I still have issues but I have learned over the years ( I am 75 diagnosed at 49) the issues associated with lateness and how it affects my job and relationships and have gotten help - medications support groups and therapy to deal . As for jobs not every job is good for those with ADHD - see job couselor. As for your family, suggest you tell them the medications help do not stop do not cure issues and you need their understanding and support on these issues.

[Hidden]

I’m sorry you’re going through a lot. ADHD is just exhausting and frustrating. And meds don’t magically fix everything. And it’s hard to do stuff when life has other plans and your brain has other plans. What I do is break

down tasks into itty bitty baby steps. But even then, I still struggle. Hope you find a solution