Hello; any advice on how to get teen son to take a recent ADHD diagnosis seriously? He is taking med now and has helped but he will not bring himself to recognize that his ADHD is what has been causing his problems with poor college performance, dropping out of college, not properly looking for a job, poor money management and generally not looking after his health, Am trying to get him to consider an ADHD coach but he clams up any time I try to get him to take any steps forward even though he can see things are not working for him, any advice or resources would be much appreciated.
Very, very stressful, worrying and frustrating.
Hiya frankman,if it's a worry for you,think how much it's affecting your son.He is probably so scared,he knows he's not functioning properly but might not know how to approach this himself and then with others also.Just tell your son that you're there for him always and don't pressure him too much.This way,he may be able to open upto you or others a bit more,it's a real worry when you're that young and you don't see anyone else with the same traits as himself.Its so scary when you just can't revise for example,your concentration is all over the place,you're not dealing with things.You have to support your son in every way.When he starts confiding in you,then you can both attack it head on.remember,it's a silent thing and when you see others advancing their life and he probably feels that he's trying harder than them with less results,how scared do you think he feels on the inside.There are people still affected by this throughout their adult lives,if you can work on this together as a family,you would take a lot of pressure off your son.Good luck with everything.
Oh you hit the nail on the head when you talk about how he sees others advancing and he is not. The funny thing is after we discovered the adhd and I started doing research I realized that I went through the exact same things as a teen. Only it was called being a “late bloomer” in those days. (Very late bloomer in my case)The regret I have is that I let my self-consciousness about my situation at the time overwhelm me when I could have relaxed and enjoyed that time of my life more. I am pretty sure I have adhd as well but have learned to live with it over the years. So I want to try to help him come to terms with it so he can relax and let things come to him naturally rather than forced. Well that’s part of it anyways. Thanks for your help.
Hiya frankman,you do understand your son because you can see your son's issues in what you went through as a kid yourself.What you can do is tell your son about your own insecurities as a child when you didn't know what was wrong with you.Theres a real common theme between the two of you.In so many cases,kids won't open up to their parents but in your case,you're early teen probs might resonate in some ways with your son's now.I wish you both all the best.