Missing my schedule....

[MustangMom]

I love me some structure and guidelines! Enjoy a regimented schedule, but....now that all my boys are graduated from high school and all but the 18 year old have left home....I'm lost. Housework doesn't seem to get done like it used to. Most days I don't know whether to wind my butt or scratch my watch!

At work, I have my system so I don't miss things (I work in accounting) but my attention to detail is lacking. I'm very familiar with ADD and ADHD as each child had one of the diagnoses, easier to handle the mom version.

I've not been on meds for the ADHD in forever, but have an appointment for an evaluation. No question at the intake I will go squirrel and she will not question the diagnosis lol. It's frustrating to be in my mid-40's and feel like I can't get things done and that I'm not successful at work. I would like to finish college as a personal goal, but not like this...I won't make it. I apologize for this being scattered. I think this life change has caused me to regress and man...it's tough.

Thanks for letting me vent...

[dubstepMaul]

Hi MustangMom, welcome to the group. Let us know how your appointment goes.

[MidLifeADHD]

I so relate to this, except I work from home and am an independent contractor so my whole life just feels like one lonely, unscheduled blob. I honestly am considering going back to a "real" job just for the schedule/interaction because now that my kids are grown, time just feels huge and empty when I'm home all the time, and my motivation to work in the absence of any of the things that get me to work--people pleasing, anxiety about letting people down--is just zero, so I feel like my professional identity is also just being wiped out.

[MustangMom in reply to MidLifeADHD]

I’m so sorry! But I feel ya! I don’t know what I’d do without my peeps here. I work in a small corporate office and my coworkers are amazing. But the house life is spilling over. Ugh. Hopefully we can get some kind of resolution. Until then...chins up buttercups!

[MidLifeADHD in reply to MustangMom]

Thank you!! I'm working on finding some new non-parent friends, and just building out my non-work life so that work is more just a paycheck than my whole existence. Or maybe I'll get to the point where I decide that I hate having work be just a paycheck and go back to being an employee instead of a one-person shop.