New here, working on getting diagnosed

[ETNsilverstar]

So I'm new to this group, and I've been looking into ADHD for a while. I never thought anything of it growing up, and I always thought you had to be hyper, bouncing off the walls to have ADHD. Then someone commented something on a forum and I've been looking into it ever since. The more I read, the more I feel it fits. I'm working with a therapist already so I can get tested, but in the meantime, I was wondering about everyone's symptoms, especially if you weren't diagnosed until you were an adult?

I think the biggest thing for me in being "successful" as a kid is that my mom never really pushed me into anything. She didn't force chores and didn't go crazy about my grades, but she told me as long as I focused on school and did my best, she'd handle the rest. So I did well in school and didn't think about any distractions that might happen later at home. Now that I live with my fiance and 4 year old, I have to do it all, and I feel like I can't focus on anything. My mind wanders, my hands don't stop moving, and I just generally feel like a mess. It feels like I'm carrying an upside down pyramid and the bottom just keeps getting bigger and bigger.

Sorry for the rant, just still trying to figure myself out.

[dgs2018]

Congrats on finding this online community. You would find that most of us have trouble figuring ourselves and life out. You're in good company. I was ADHD high-level and so the symptoms manifested early and I was given Ritalin for years as a child. It probably helped to keep me in school and from becoming a menace in general. As you get older some of the symptoms do become less problematic, but there's no cure for this condition. You learn coping skills. Here's a thought: Think about your good qualities and focus on your strengths more than your mistakes and shortcomings. Make short achievable goals and acknowledge your own small victories. It's helpful to keep a journal.

[HowCome in reply to dgs2018]

Thanks for post, and thanks dgs2018 fot reply... i’m new here, and might try a journal to focus on my strengths.

I find those hard to acknowledge, but since coming back to ADHD as an idea, I think i need to big me up a bit,

while i try working anew on organisational stuff.... just fed up of being in a pickle, and a nuisance to friends and family, especially my very patient hubby.

(Looking at ADHD again has been a shock, and there has been a grieving, but also an acceptance that I need to work at things again, now I’ve really noted how the symptom lists seem to fit me!)

Good luck everyone!