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[marymoll]

Hi, I'm a 53 year old woman with an MS in Human Services with a diagnosis of ADHD inattentive type. I married later in life and moved from CA where I lived all my life, to Portland, OR to be with my husband. Our relationship was long distance until last May when I moved and threw my whole life into massive upheaval. New home, new job that didn't work out, another new job that's not working out so well, no friends here and a whole different healthcare set up. I was with Kaiser and had everything I needed but made a compromise to try a different system. I'm having massive difficulty finding the support I need and I'm on the verge of crisis. The job I'm at is very difficult and extremely technical and with my ADHD it makes it harder for me to learn. My boss is working with me and HR to help accommodate me but I'm feeling very anxious that I might not succeed in this job. I've reached out to my local chapter of CHADD but the contact person has not responded to my 2 email attempts. I feel alone and in a lurch and I NEED help. Suggestions, resources please?

[Waterfront]

Hi Mary,

I’m sorry for the situation you find yourself in - it sounds like something that I would go through and be completely overwhelmed by. I’m just coming out of a crisis situation myself. While I don’t have the best advice I wanted to tell you that I didn’t find any help through CHADD at all. After doing some research about what else was available near me - I was able to find and speak to an incredibly compassionate and understanding therapist ( understanding about ADHD). Just learning about how normal it was to feel so overwhelmed was a help to me. Of course I then put other steps into place. There are other organizations for people like us ( I’m on the opposite coast- so you may want to google them in your area) but I really wanted to write you bc I felt so alone going through all of this trouble I was having/ and when no one wrote me back ( CHADD) or responded to my post - I sunk a little lower and erased my post a few days later. I hope you know you’re not alone and that life always gets back to better... and I hope you can find another organization or therapist to help you through this time.

PC

[Nick1913]

Hi Marymoll,

New relationship, new area, new job, new environment, wow... you took a lot of changes on.... you are very brave.

Possible resources would be a Chadd group, therapist who has experience with Adders, and an ADHD coach. Stay in touch with you friends, and family.... nothing better than a trusted and proven support network.

There are a lot of people here on this that can/will support you as well... sorry to say you are not alone anymore 😎

[NonADHDSpouse]

My spouse was explaining these anxious and anxiety feelings to me just the other day. I am so sorry to hear all the stress you're feeling. Have you tried talking to your hubby about the way you feel? have you told him how you feel so alone in all of this? I think your spouse would be a great place to start (if he is understanding of ADHD) I am sure he'll be there for you as much as he can emotionally and all. I understand it wont rid the anxious and anxiety feelings, but maybe it can lower it, or maybe even make you feel a bit more secure in what you're going through. Have you tried texting the crisis line and texting with someone? Also try and get the thought of failure out of thought. You're not a failure. Some times life throws us lemons, and we make lemonade. But that doesn't make you a failure. You're succeeding whether you see it or not. All the big changes you have made is also success. The work at your job may be rough, but keep in mind that every day after your work shifts you succeeded... because it is true. Work being rough makes your success in that 10 times higher. So you're not just succeeding, but succeeding times 10. I am not saying you shouldn't feel overwhelmed, that is a normal process. But look at all the amazing things you have and are accomplishing right now

[Eclecticentric77]

Hi there, sorry to hear about your difficulties. I myself have Inattentive ADHD and was not diagnosed until my mid twenties. Starting taking small dose stimulant medication and combined that with supplements and have dramatically turned my life around. I am currently pursuing my PhD. to become a clinical psychologist in order to work with the ADHD community and publish my research and studies. I have multiple resources I have made for ADHD and specifically Inattentive ADHD. If you click my picture it will take you to my profile where in my bio section you will find links to a video series I made about Inattentive ADHD and the struggles throughout the different stages of life, a book I published about Inattentive ADHD, and a link to a google doc I made in which I state what supplements are essential if someone has ADHD (I also just uploaded a video on ADHD/Supplements/Neurotransmitters incase you're interested). Hope this helps.