New to the community, hoping to gain inspiration.

[longanimouslocke]

I was genetically diagnosed a year ago, but for some time (since having to have progress reports signed at the end of class in 4th grade) I have known that I had ADD. The thing that sticks out the most for me is feeling completely helpless--almost defected to a certain degree-- when it comes to social groups or being around more than one person. I have read about this commonality and know that it comes with the territory, but it gets really frustrating sometimes. The worst part is how much I turn to alcohol to just get rid of the anxiety (which overall, I know that it doesn't...) and/or just want to escape who I am. I know that this is not the answer, but being ADD has really burdened my life. I can't seem to hold onto relationships, unless I hide most of the time behind Netflix or saying that I am busy with school or work and the worst part is I feel like I have just been a loner most of my life because I don't know anything else. I have tried doing groups like yoga and even go to a behavioral science book club, but to no avail I just can't stick it out. I don't think I feel comfortable in my own skin. Perhaps belonging to this community and getting a therapist that deals with ADD would be advantageous, but I feel like I might just run away from that and not be accountable. Does anyone out there feel like this ever, or have any tips (no matter how big or small) on how to just embrace yourself and learn how to accept your ADD and the fact that it's something that is going to take work everyday? Thanks for reading.

[dgs2018]

Welcome to the community. I have had ADHD since elementary school but luckily it was diagnosed and had Ritalin to help me somewhat survive grade school. The hyperactive part (H) was quite real for me as it was a major challenge to slow down and follow the classroom rules which usually meant be still and quiet. Anyway, coping mechanisms are key to dealing to with it on a daily basis. Yes, I don't always feel comfortable in my own skin, but think about this- most people probably have some areas they're not willing to share with others or try to hide. You won't be able to escape who you are, but rather embrace it. Play to your strengths and interests and this will help with dealing with weaknesses. Be your own advocate. Keep a journal and document how you felt when you were doing something that worked for you and kept you happy. Then, try to replicate this behavior and incorporate it into your life. Have a great journey!