I have a spouse who was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and later as an adult but refuses to get treatment. I’m at my wits end trying to cope. He can’t finish any project he starts. He has no patience with our 1 yr old or 4 yr old. He constantly yells and swears at the 4 yr old. He stays home as the care giver. He has to be reminded about all his appointments to the point where every doctor and dentist has my number to call me as he can’t return their calls or show up to appointments. He waits until the last minute to do everything and often doesn’t get it done even after constant reminders from me. So I have to then rush to get it all done. He brings home useless items from goodwill and hoards the stuff all over the house. He throws his trash all over his car, like uneaten food, wrappers, and it’s completely unsanitary for the children. Is this ADHD behaviors? I need to know how others cope. Thanks!!