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TRANSFERRING SCHOOLS

My son recently got into another altercation with a kid they told me he had one to many and wanted to suspend him for the 2 time he has adhd and aggression. I felt they had already labelized my son and just didn't want to tolerate him anymore so I withdrew him and going to start a new school on Monday I hope.MY question is what kind of questions do parents normally ask principals and teachers and what should i tell them I want to except I just don't want a repeat where they always just want to send him home and not deal with him when he has a episode?

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I know exactly how you feel I have been dealing with this since my son started school. Once there is an altercation they are labeled. We have to be our child's advocate for life because schools do not help much.

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Yes and it sucks so much.it takes a lot out of me I'm hoping to ask for maybe special ed classes where he's in a smaller setting

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I did have my son in the 504 program in Elementary school it did help somewhat. But it took a lot of going and calling school to have this taken care of. My son is high school now and we are going through bad times right now. I feel so bad for him he is just not fitting in at all. Good luck don't give up.

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Yea my son has 504 but that's not enough

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I would request a iep instead of a 504 I believe iep are better than the 504s are

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Thanks will do

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I understand. The staff keep telling me he is capable and bright. Accommodations such as preferential seating or repeated instructions don't work for him. They basically seem to judge him like regular students.

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Not sure if your son has been tested but I would bring him to a psychologist and have him tested. They will give you recommendations and schools will most likely go along with those recommendations.

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A medical diagnosis should greatly help get him the help he needs. Why a 504 plan instead of an IEP? We have found that open communication with the schools and a willingness to do whatever it takes to help our son has made them a lot more willing to work with us. Good luck, I know it's hard.

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I asked the new school about IEP he does have one lol I guess it was just the other school wasn't following it

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I recently transferred my son to a really good school because of alterations my son was having with other students. I wanted to give him a fresh start. It's been 3 weeks into school and the same problems are arising here. It seems even worse because now he has several teachers and they constantly call me while I'm at work, to complain about him. He's not completing any work. He is on Concerta and has a 504 plan. I'm considering quitting my job and home schooling him. Has anyone tried this and how has their experience been?

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I thought of that to but my son does do his work it's just the aggression when it does arises the day is gone for him

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Ugh...I feel for u. I wish I could quit...but I have to work. Honestly, I think the socialization is good for my daughter, even if mostly negative...if she was at home, she'd never have the chance to 'work-out' her social issues. I dunno...no answer here really, just hugs.

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My son is similar...I had to (nicely) beg for social support via the school..he meets with the social worker 1x a week and has check-ins with her too. He also sees a therapist outside of school so he can talk about the stuff going on in school. I also found a playgroup when he was younger that helped him learn better social skills. Its never easy to deal with the social aspect of ADHD! Hang in there!

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What u mean playgroup ?

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It's called behavioral play therapy. Its normally run by a team of therapists. A group of children with similar social issues come together and play. The session is geared towards teaching them how to deal with more complex social situations during social time with other kids. When I did it I would get a summary report about my son's progress and he was given goals to work on too. Also, at school, the social worker holds a 1x a week group session as well when kids can get together and discuss things that happened and how they could have handled the situation better.

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Schools prefer to do 504's because it is easier for them. IEP's require a lot more work. When I go to an IEP meeting the special ed coordinator, school counselor, Vice principal and home room teacher all attend.

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I haven't been able to get an IEP because my son is "capable. "

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You can request one under the quailifatcation other health impairment if he has a Adhd diagnoses

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My 2 cents is, checking into 504 plan or IEP. In one of these should include a behavior medication plan for behavior and a plan of action to adjust the behavior. Also, another great websites is UNDERSTOOD.ORG while there search for observing behavior or incident of occurrence form. and also you might want to download IEP binder checklist which will help you with contact information for your school and tools for parents/ teacher conferences and especially at the beginning or annual review.

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Hi my grandson grade 5 got his IEP at the end of school last year. But at the start of this year the IEP was not helping much. He is ADHD very bright top of his class in everything but math but very disruptive. We learned about FBA (Functional behavioral assessment) to go with his IEP. They did the FBA last week and today they added BIP (Behavior Intervention Plan) to his IEP. The BIP targets one to three of a student’s undesirable behaviors with interventions that are linked to the functions of the behavior; each intervention specifically addresses a measurable, clearly-stated targeted behavior. A BIP can include prevention strategies, which stop the behavior before it begins, as well as replacement behaviors, which achieve the same function as the disruptive behavior without causing disruption. The environment is considered, and the FBA/BIP team may determine that a change in a student’s schedule or in the arrangement of is or her classroom is called for. In addition, the BIP provides a plan for responding to the old behavior that is being replaced and promoting the new behavior. I am hoping this will help with classroom disruptions. If needed they can give him a teacher of his own for part of the day.

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Sorry that you are struggling with all of this. Before you quit your job, please call and speak to the psychologist that is assigned to THIS school. They need to help you that is what they are paid for. If you pull him he will not learn to deal with this type of conflict and resolution.

If you change the 504 and get him qualified for an IEP he needs to have behavior that impacts his education, so you could say that the anxiety impacts his ability to do his work... or the bullying impacts his ability to impact his ability to work... then there needs to be goals that are measurable assigned to teachers that are worked on. That is what the purpose of the educational plan does.

Is your son getting counselinte and do you thing his medication is stable and the right dose and type?.

I hope this helps you in some way, It would be nice to get people at the school involved to help you, starting with the school psychologist is a good place.

Best of luck.

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