Hello! I am new to the ADHD world. My boyfriend's 6 year old daughter was diagnosed around October/November of last year. We recently have seen an increase in outbursts when asked to do something, not do something or told she can't have something. Our situation is a little complicated, her biological mother has her a few nights a week and/or every other weekend, remainder of the time she is with her father. Her paternal grandmother was keeping her at night for her father to work up until a month ago as I do not live with her father at the moment. We're concerned that her sudden behavior changes may be due to her grandmother not caring for her at night and her getting her way all the time as well as the lack of consistency between house holds (mother allows constant use of electronics, we do not, etc). Has anyone else experienced something similar? She seems to think she should get something every time we're out whether she's been good or bad. She yells at her father. I've noticed when she gets upset or frustrated that she wants to break or throw things. The smallest thing sends her in to a meltdown. She thinks it's funny when her father tries to correct her. It breaks my heart to see her father frustrated and feeling like he isn't doing right by her and seeing her upset because we are trying to enforce rules and discipline.
Any good resource suggestions? I've mentioned counseling and us even taking some parenting classes to learn better management skills. Anything I can read on my own until we can get that set up would be much appreciated.