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Finally approved for a non-public school

For those of you that struggle with school, the phone calls, the suspensions, the knowing your child isn’t getting the education or support they need, please realize there ARE more options for you! You just have to go through the cycle which I won’t sugar coat it, it’s taken many hours, much stress but well worth it in the end!

I challenged the district, because they were unable to accommodate my sons behavior while also striving for education and after 1 year of kindergarten and 3 months of 1st grade we were granted assistant for non-public school. With the help of our family advocate we now are getting the services we need to challenge and strive for my sons abilities rather than focus on his inabilities. Feeling grateful!!

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How did you get an advocate and help? My son was removed from 3 preschools and has only been in kindergarten for 1 month and having a difficult time due to his impulsiveness but he is so smart and social. It is hard to know the best thing to do.

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Oh I know the feeling, my son was removed from 2 preschools prior to kindergarten. Let me ask a few questions first before I get into the whole process so I can walk you step by step. Does your son currently have an IEP? If so is he in a revise classroom or a modified class due to his behavior? ❤️

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I'm at 4, well 5 if you count the summer camp incident with sticky sand. Looking back I hate preschools...they can boot a kid out on a whim. They are a business and our kids take too much work and are a bad ROI for them. Was so glad to finally get to public school. Haven't rec'd 1 phone call in 5 years. Maybe a few notes and emails during 1st-3rd...but much better from 4th on. Looking back, I would have paid a sitter to take care of my daughter at home, and spared us the stress of change/finding new preschools. Also, would have medicated her earlier. We did not start until summer of 2017. Good luck though with whatever you do.

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I appreciate it! We ended up having to keep him with a sitter after being removed from 2 preschools. We weren’t able to get any assistance until he was in kindergarten and now thankfully we are getting all that’s needed.

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Hi how are you? I'm very interested to know what kind of schoolings does you're son received for his situation? My son is beyond smart! it's just that in the new school the principal has called me for a few things that aren't of urgency. They should have some kind of school that has after school program or specialize in these children's problems.

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Miablues- I am sure this will "stir things up", but in an idea world the general class and regular public school would do the BEST they can do to work with children with ADHD ( this could be done well and many time the school fails). Please understand how important it is for children to be with regular peers and in a general school. I understand the desire for a seperate school, but depending on what your ultimate goal is.. mine is to have children with ADHD interact with other peers as much as possible. Therefore, FOR MY SON, I would not want him in a isolated school with only children with ADHD, I don't feel this would be real life enough.

Attending a charter school seems like a win win, they tend to have smaller class sizes and give more attending to individual students. I am lucky, the school district I work for has all different kinds of learning opportunities for every learner.

Congrats on getting this for your son.

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Thank you it’s been a huge accomplishment for us!

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I hope you know I deeply appreciate you're reply to me. Thank you a million times over OnThemove1971

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I did thank you the other day, wasn't sure if you received or knew it was for you I did write a long message regarding my son's issue and the few yrs that lead to his situation.

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I do agree that a child should be with other children, because it can islate them and make things very complicated as they get older the withdraw from people and don't learn good social skills.

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Thank so much. I wrote a long and lengthy message and it was errased, how sad that is. I will explain another time. I'm very disappointed that I wrote a long paragraph and it wasn't sent or saved. I can just cry. Thank you kindly for you're reply.

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I look forward to hearing more about your son, we are all in this together and need to fight to get what our children need.

I hope this new opportunity changes things for him. Education needs to be "painfree" and for our kids that is not the case.

Best of luck.

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Thank you so much for you're advise and knowledge.

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I want you to know I wrote my long and lengthy message again. Which I know I mentioned the first 2 of them we're erased. Thank you for the caring heart and to others. I to have reached out to. Couple people with advise. I wish all of the parents on here the best luck and success for there children.

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I’m so sorry to hear. I’d love to help and offer any information that I have to you as I know we all struggle! You can email if it’s easier angniko2012@yahoo.com.

I know what it’s like to struggle with the school system but I can assure you that you are entitled to getting his needs met! ❤️

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Niko2012. Thank you for you kindness as well.

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Please let me know what was the opportunity for you're son that was approved.

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Hi I was wondering if the message was for me Niko? Not sure. Thank you if it is.

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I wanted to explain a couple of things, my son was born with torticollis. I've taken him to physical therapy for neck, then his whole body because of weakness and to build his strength. Then he was having diffulty with his speech, I've been a proactive parent for my son ever step of the way. I even had him evaluated at 4 year's old. I was told to have rechecked when he is 7. I put my son into Cathlic school, because the classroom is small with 12 students. They have structure, a foundation, disappline as well. I went to Cathlic school for a few yrs. Some of the students and my son was put on probation from his class. It was the hardest year of my life. Let me send this part because I lost 2 long and lengthy message on here.

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My son was constantly the one that got in trouble, a long with a bully type of boy that was putting his hands on my son in the bathroom. I never tough my son to fight back or to retaliate. I was always the person standing up to the bully's picking on the quiet girls. My son is big for his age and very strong and knows how to box, taught by family members. Plus my grandfather, and my father we're golden glove boxer's. As a wise woman that I am I wouldn't teach my son to beat up kids that are being unfair at times. Which this boy had problems. I'm going to send this next part.

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Yes the message was for you with my email address if it’s easier. But you can message me any way and once I read through I will be more than happy to give you all my feedback. I’m here to help in any way I can. Also what area are you in?

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Ok great! Please read what I wrote. I'm sorry long and lengthy. I just want you and others to know there not alone, I've been going through some ruff bumps in the road, but still standing strong. I've been his voice and be proactive parent in meeting his needs. Which I went looking for the help he needs right from the beginning of his life. That's what we have to do is be there voice, helping them while they are young so they won't go through difficulties in there adult life being misunderstood because there needs maybe weren't met and some parents out there want to cover up there child has a problem, guess what the child will suffer when they ate older, with long lasting effects. I would even advise parents if you're single parent like I have been, they have the big brother and sister programs. The program has been around for 114 yrs and they have 450,000 millions volunteer 50 states and 14 countries and the do background check and other to make sure our children are safe. So I want to pass this information to all single parents. So it's called big brother and big sister. My son is my only child and his father isn't involved to much in my son's life. My son is very sad always said he wants sister and brothers and sisters in dad please mom, it brakes my heart to the core honestly! I feel for every single one of those kids that are in the same situation.

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Thank for you kind words. I'm here to help as well for people that need the support, and encouragement, knowledge of options that can help in anyway possible.

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During all the issue that we're arising starting during kindergarten when he was only 4 in half, contant calls and being harrased by a very crazy teacher that was unreasonable, and very ridged, just out right rude and condensending. On January 25, 2018 I believe a Saturday during the week I was moving, the principal comes out from apparment to tell my son is expelled from school, just like that! I was in shock, and crying. I was getting ready to bury my sister that died possibly wrongful death. I buried her 2/7/18. It was a ruff year I went through. Our bird Tweedy died after 18 in half yrs and I tried saving a cat that I was going to give a former a home died soon after. Then when I was on my way to drive my son to school another cat I cared for was ran over and the person ran it over never pulled out of road so his body was still warm, I picked the cat up to bury him . My son had to witness that before school, how cruel people are. So we lost 3 animals a Aunt, and the school he loved. I will send this message just in case it gets errased like my other messages.

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When I was getting ready to sign my son into public school I reached out as a proactive parent asking them to evaluate my son, so they can provide him with the help he needs in his classroom. My son wanted to teach the classroom and help kids that are struggling with there work. He wants to be in charge or in control. My son is very independent, wants to cook all the time. Which I have allowed him to make his omelette with the guidance of me the first time. My son's issue are impulsive, and can't stand still and gets board very quickly. My son has a high iQ my grandfather, was the man that did the wiring of the first appalo rocket.

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I definitely will take some time reading through your messages. I want to be able to read and give it some thought. And thank you so much for reaching out! It feels great not to be alone 😀

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Yes I agree. I'm glad to have connected to a site with parents going through the same situation.

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It was awful! My son doesn’t need constant behavior redirection, he needs his great abilities catered to. He can draw, he’s musically inclined, loves to read and write and help others but when bored like you mentioned or not challenged his inabilities to do things or frustration and impulsivity comes out! So long story short I did not accept the schools recommendation and poof granted me approval for a non public school.

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I'm still a little confused, are you home schooling you're son? Or is he in a private school or charter school? I think it is wonderful that you didn't give up till you found the best solution that was more suitable for you're son's needs.

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Sorry, he was approved for a non public school which is basically like a charter school l/non-profit that the district pays for. They are schools that can accommodate the behavior and modified curriculum that a public school can not.

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That's awesome! How is you're son doing in that school? How long has he been in this charter school for? Are the teacher's trained and able to handle the academic part, plus meeting children's special needs?

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I have heard of charter schools, I wasn't aware that it's for children with special needs. Is it just for child that have issues?

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He actually has not attended the new school. We just got approved last week so it’s a process because we have to tour all the schools available for his needs then make a decision. The schools have lots of behavioral interventions along side culinary, arts/crafts, music... so there is more Challenging approaches to keep him

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What area do you live in

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I'm really surprised that the public school didn't offer the extra help in a regular classroom that has kids with normal behavior as well as children that have issue that need a second teacher that specializes in there problems, as long as a child isn't disruptive, that would be very difficult for other children that are doing well. I guess there is all different levels of help that children would be approved for depending on his academic level, and behaviours.

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Thank you for getting back to me. I deeply appreciate you taking the time to read my message regarding my son's issues.

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I understand the feeling of the schools not being compassionate towards our little ones. My son from the time he was in day care, to preschool has been asked to leave. Since preschool we struggled from that point on, 2 preschools, 5 nannies over the years, 2 kindergartens.

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Once we got to the district I immediately from kindergarten had him on an IEP, they sent him to a behavioral modification class at his school and many of the symptoms worsened, because now he was surrounded by kids just like him with the impulsivity, hitting, bad language. But overall my son is an amazing smart boy diagnosed with ADHD&ODD.

I pulled together a whole team that involved the district, our family advocate, his school therapist and gave numerous examples of how they were unable to accommodate him. I toured their last recommendation school that was supposed to be a higher level of behavioral modification.

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We've been denied an IEP twice now. His psychiatrist has told us he is smart enough to get by so the school will continue to push him along. He isn't reaching his full potential but because he passes his tests they refuse to give him an IEP. I asked them "what is he going to do when he can't even fill out an application to get a job?" . They told me it isn't there problem because they don't teach writing. I am so frustrated and beyond angry. I'm happy at least someone has beat this system.

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Does he have a current diagnosis? Does it interfere with his school? What issues re you experiencing at school that you feel he needs an IEP so I can understand and offer suggestions

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He does have a diagnosis. They denied his IEP because they said he isn't behind in school and doesn't need an IEP to catch up to his classmates. His adhd severely impacts his school work and social relationships with his peers.

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I don't understand why they are denying you're son the evaluation! Doesn't make sense to me. Why is you're son seeing a psychiatrist?

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