Feeling crappy

[Elizabethdela]

My daughter is always saying that she's a loser and has no friends and that she hates herself I'm trying my best not to cry in front of her I'm afraid of her falling into depression I'm so worried about her any advice would be helpful I don't know if this is from her having adhd.

[Onthemove1971]

Elizabrthdela-

This is a mental health issue, is she seeing a counselor who can discuss these issues with her? Life is not easy for children, then add ADHD and this really complicates life. I hope a counselor can help build her confidence.

Best of luck

[Elizabethdela in reply to Onthemove1971]

Thank you she is seeing a counselor

[Pennywink]

Your pediatrician or school counselor/ psychologist might be a good place to start to find out how best to help her.

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[MomOfAMermaid]

In addition to these awesome ideas, how are you feeling her strengths so she can experience herself feeling good and being successful in her terms? Feeding her passions, strengths and what feels good to her can offset the experiences you describe. Thank goodness my daughter loves to read and when nothing else calms her, reading does. So, we make weekly trips to the library where she has the power to choose books she wants to read. My daughter loves to paint - so we have a space where she can watercolor paint (less messy and she can set it up on her own for building independence), she loves to dance and sing - so she has some boxes of dress up clothes, a disco light and an old cell phone with music on it, again so she can set it up herself to enjoy life and practice being independent. We bought a trampoline for her holiday gift and when needed, she can go jump her frustrations out (we have rules about no flips, just jumping for safety). I have learned to do my best to feed her passions and then the fears and faulty thinking lesson. I am happy to talk with you if brainstorming with another adult that understands would be helpful. Take great care! Krista 336-793-7987

[Elizabethdela in reply to MomOfAMermaid]

Thank you so much for your kind words I might take you up on your offer in calling you or texting you Krista actually I'm not doing to well I'm constantly crying when she's in school because as a mother I feel hopeless and a failure to her.

[MomOfAMermaid in reply to Elizabethdela]

Please do! Would love to chat or text to exchange ideas - which ever is best for you!!! 336-793-7987

[Elizabethdela in reply to MomOfAMermaid]

Thank you again for being so thoughtful I will text you in the following day's wouldn't want to bother you on a Sunday.

[Renee1988]

She is in such a hard place. My son gets there momentarily and it always breaks my heart. I, on the other hand, have battled depression all of my life so I know how hard she is also fighting. Therapy and journaling saved me. My son is not open to either of those options, but we keep trying on the therapy and have really worked on a relationship where he can at least sort of talk things out with his dad and I. It's so hard. I'm sorry you have to face this. If she is at all willing to try therapy, get her there now.

[Ldydy24]

Definitely recommend getting her some therapy as it will help her to talk with someone neutral on how she feels. My son also has said these things but not consistently. I initially thought he says things like this to get attention when things just aren’t going his way or he is struggling with a friend but given he’s 13 I didn’t want to take any chances. I also agree pumping up her self esteem and focusing on positive things help.