After 4 semesters of college (unsuccessful) my 20 year old son has moved home. With no formal diagnosis of ADD but identified as "impulsive", and no medication, (we tried Intuniv in middle school and was unhappy with effects) he is living with me and my new husband in a 2 bedroom duplex of less than 1000 sq ft. I moved here on the beach after my son went to FAU thinking a small house would be OK all the time knowing in my gut he would be home. Our storage unit is full of furniture from my previous home that I refused to get rid of because we will need it to set up an apartment when the time comes.
I joined this site after struggling emotionally and feeling like a failure after all the parenting I have done only to see that he is not ready for his after-high school future.
This is my first post but have responded to some of you who have posted similar emotions and am grateful for the communication with people who "get it." I can't wait for him to make an accomplishment I can brag about but until that time I am trying to stay positive and encouraging and continue to parent his organization and list-making as he works at a restaurant and saves money for his next venture. What should he do next?