Tiptoe

[Vicx08]

Does anyone else feel they have to tiptoe around what they say to their child for fear of their reactions..... I have been having this problem all day he is in a rare mood today. Everything I ask of him it’s no and then the temper tantrum I especially tiptoe when I’m out and about for fear of how he reacts............

[DoodleyDukes]

I don't "tip-toe" around my sound but I know if he does not want to do what it asked, he will have a meltdown / tantrum. I keep reminding him to think of the outcomes if he continues to argue with me...sometimes he can regroup and other times, it's a full blown tantrum.

[Vicx08 in reply to DoodleyDukes]

Yes I don’t want to tiptoe and when we are home I don’t as much much but in public sadly it’s a different story his younger sister is copying all of his behaviors so I feel like it’s double at this point

[DoodleyDukes in reply to Vicx08]

from what I've heard, being strict and following thru is important in all settings

[Vicx08]

Yea I am definitely working on that

[zetareticulibound]

I'm definitely right there with you. I always say I'm walking on eggshells around my 11 year old daughter. It feels wrong, but I get through each day by avoiding conflict as much as possible. She jumps down my throat for almost everything, even when I'm being emotionally supportive about what she's telling me. She sees me as a villain; she even has nightmares about me. I've never done anything to deserve this and it breaks my soul.

[Vicx08 in reply to zetareticulibound]

I am so sorry to hear that but I understand what ur going through my son is only 5 I really hope this is something g that passes

[zetareticulibound in reply to Vicx08]

Thank you. I'm sorry as well. Hoping at the end of all this it will all work out somehow. For all of us. 😔

[Vicx08 in reply to zetareticulibound]

Me as well!

[Jb5366]

It’s hard we tiptoe too the tantrums are like a roller coaster .. going along all is fine until he has to do something he doesn’t want or take things away like Xbox for not doing what he was supposed to and then the tantrum comes in we thought it was hormones mixed in w the adhd ( he’s 12) but it’s hard it causes my husband to argue w me and my 9 yr old daughter gets upset

We have started seeing a counselor to better handle this and have him better handle this

Consistently is what the key is

We make together a list of things he has to do before he can get xbox time ( it has to be earned )

Like coming home from school , plugging in his school computer and putting school papers in their folder and after snack starting homework ( so I’m not nagging and it’s clearly written as to what he has to do)

This is new to us and it’s going ok there was some tantrums but overall better

the dr says stick with it the tantrums will get less as he sees what has to be done and has to do it to get what he wants to do

So we will see

[Vicx08 in reply to Jb5366]

My son is also in therapy as well now and I am also trying some new things with his it’s all a learning process for me that’s for sure and it does take time

[zetareticulibound in reply to Jb5366]

We could be the same person, except it's my 11 year old daughter who suffers with ADHD and my 9 year old son who gets upset from being subjected to all the chaos. It's an unfortunate situation for everyone. Wishing you the best.

[Vicx08 in reply to zetareticulibound]

Wishing you the best as well

[Jb5366]

Us too , right there with you wanting things to go smoother and really hoping the therapy helps him and us