Behavioral therapy

[Sebastian28]

Hello... My son started behavioral therapy about 4 weeks ago, once a week. Honestly I haven't seen any improvement at all...the last 2 times he had a bad session meaning he was very upset and throwing things around. Therapist said is ok he will grow out of it. ...She doesn't believe he has any conditions to prevent him of learning and behaving... Should I change my therapist or should I wait to see the outcome of her diagnosis... He is not under meds but he was diagnosed in January of this year with ADHD, ODD and developmental delays.

School is also taking to long to complete his evaluation! I honestly don't know what to do, as much as I try to help him it seems to me that he gets worst... really bad temper He is very loveble but a lot of people don't understand his conditions

Any advise?? Please...

[Tmullennax]

That's hard! I started Jacob out with therapy but it wasn't working. I took him to a neurologist where he was diagnosed with ADHD. Then I took him to a child psychologist who has really helped. After many changes of meds I think we're on the right path.... finally!!!! They also send a children's counselor to his school every Tuesday. If you don't see results after a month. Seek elsewhere. Good luck ❤

[Sebastian28 in reply to Tmullennax]

Will do thank you so much

Best wishes to you too.

[Tmullennax in reply to Sebastian28]

You too. Wishing Sebastian happiness and luck 💙

[Mmagusin]

The more I read about ADHD and ODD, the less I'm inclined to believe that individual therapy is at all helpful. We tried it and after thousands of dollars decided it was not right for us. It also made my son feel like he was the problem, and not the family dynamic, which was WRONG. I believe you can best treat the ADHD, a biological brain chemical disorder, with medicine. Once that is working, you'll also need to treat the ODD by getting yourself trained to manage and eventually eliminate the defiance. I highly recommend 'parent management training' designed specifically for defiant children. I did this with my wife and learned so much! Our kids are WAY more complex than average kids so it does take more to parent them. Remember, the therapist can't come home with you so we need to become the therapist.

[seller in reply to Mmagusin]

My son is now 23 and finally showing maturity, but you are completely correct that therapy for kids is pretty much a waste of your time and money. I am a psych nurse and my husband is a family therapist and even we tried therapy for a few sessions, with no results! Our son told us years later that he felt blamed by the therapist (who we liked !) and he was determined not to "give in". It was all about power and control for him. I can tell you that the reason we have a pretty good relationship now is that he can do almost anything he chooses, but has to deal with the consequences. And he still reminds me that he's and "adult and can make his own choices" if I get too involved or offer too much advice!! You are so right in saying that ADHD kids (and boys in particular) are very complicated. It's taken us years of struggle to realize that.

[Sebastian28 in reply to Mmagusin]

I will reach out to the reginal center near home... someone told me that it is one of my best options too.

Thank you for your advice and time

[Sebastian28 in reply to Sebastian28]

My son is complicated... he wants everything done his way and he is only 5 years old. I struggled everyday to do homework but we are trying...

[Sebastian28 in reply to Mmagusin]

I am giving up on therapy for him... Yesterday all he did was played with the therapist and after she said he said that he is ashamed of his behavior at school. Thats all she said.... I send her a message requesting a full report of his prior sessions.. I dont know...

[seller]

Behavioral therapy for kids doesn't work......they are too young and have absolutely NO insight into their own behavior. Therapy for YOU can work, and your son may unconsciously take in some of the discussion, etc., but it will not translate into good behavior. His brain is simply not there yet. So he can nod his head and agree that yelling at you is not the thing to do, and at the time, he really means it, but he doesn't have the ability to make it last. He will yell at you again an hour later! You, however, can get some help with a good therapist because they can help you deal with your son in a healthy way. Medication will help with his focus, schoolwork, etc. It does not always mean that the defiance goes away....which is why therapy can help you.

[Sebastian28 in reply to seller]

Yesterday after his theraphy he was calm but as soon as we got home he got extremely mad. So, i just walked away and said nothing, I was afraid of saying something that might hurt his feelings and that i would regret later on. He stopped after 30 minutes or so, he came up to me and said i am very sorry but I cant help it mom.... It breaks my heart.... But you are so right I will take therapy.

Thank you so much for your support

Best wishes,

[Grandma01]

I have no real advise, they tell me that reward charts a good for these situations. If feel you need another option feel free to do so, until you see change or feel comfortable.

[Sebastian28 in reply to Grandma01]

Will do, I am open to anything. Thank you so much

[Butler06]

This sounds so much like my grandsons diagnosis and behavior. Kept getting suspended so my daughter took him out of public school and plans to start home school Monday. He has an temper problem too. Gets angry easily. We certainly do need a support group and help with our situations. Like many of you we feel all alone and helpless at times. We’ll keep praying. Won’t give up. Praying for all of you as well.