ADHD Parents Together

10 yr old with ADHD and ODD

Hello, my name is Heather and I just joined this group tonight. My daughter was diagnosed in 2010 with ADHD and ODD, she is on concerta. In the last 5 or 6 months she has developed really bad anger issues. Bad to the point she is screaming at me, telling me she hates me, cussing at me and She kicks and throws things. I leave her alone to calm down due to nothing I say helps her calm down. After a few hours or the next morning She will apologize for being so mean. Even the most simple things set her off. Any one have similar situations and have ideas that help with your child? I need some advice. Thank you in advance!!

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Hi there. I’m a mother of a 7 year old boy with ADHD, and I am also a RN. He is on concerta as well. Our psychiatrist told us that if he seems to get irritable suddenly, that it could mean the dose is too high.. I would suggest having the doctor reevaluate her dosage..

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We have a Drs appt tomorrow, thank you!

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Hello,

I just joined the group myself and have a 9 year old son who was taking methylphenidate, generic for Concerta, for the last 2 years. After finally getting a dose that was helping my son he started to digress after doing so well for about one school year. He has also developed the anger issues and is very direspectful, especially in the morning before he takes his morning dose.

He ignores me, screams and disregards any discipline. Later, he will realize what he had done and feel bad and apologize, but not always. I feel like he is different little boy....he was always been affectionate and gave me "mommy hugs" and was a little gentleman, not perfect but not like this at all.

The doctor changed his meds. to dexmethyphidate (Focalin), it's only been a week but not much change in school or attitude.....

I miss my little boy.....

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Our psychiatrist told us that when kids hit growth spurts, their ADHD does too.. Since is he was doing so well for so long and then seemed to change; I would look at maybe seeing if his dose needed re-evaluated. Our doc told us that during growth spurts the meds may need increased..

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Thanks, we were just at the doctors office and he never said anything about that.....we have started a new med. and now working on the dosage.

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My daughter is the exact same way :( idk what to do

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I am listening to all the responses and suggestions so I can ask the Dr about any or all of them....maybe we can figure this out!

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I have a Son named Isaiah and he is 17. He is diagnosed with ADHD and ODD as well since he was six. I have experienced all of what you are going through and honestly time has began the healing process! He understands better now that he is older. Yes he cusses and I stay on him and ladies your child may experiment with drugs. The best remedy is keep your children active and from time to time enroll them in places that will keep them overnight to help deal with those out burst because our children can and will become violent and hit you. Yes they will feel bad sometimes but not always. And never fold in and give any ground to your children when you are disciplining for they see it as a sign of weakness and will exploit your parenthood. They are not slow and know what they are doing. They test you daily. Don’t give in. Stand firm

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I have a 12 year old like this as well. When I say 12, he’s 200# at 5’6”. He scares me at times. We are seeing and adjusting meds all we can. I’m at my breaking point and was broke down yesterday. I had to call the police on him as he was trying to beat and throw kick and scream while we were driving. I have an appt with the juvenile office today. Have you ever done this before? What are your thoughts? Thanks...

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You really don't want to get your son involved in the juvenile justice system, if at all possible. I would check with your physician for additional medications to help control the behavior. Setting up a strict behavioral plan can help - with specific rewards and consequences - like TV or video games. As a last resort, sending your son to boarding school is also an option, although it's very expensive and definitely long-term.

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My son is the same way. He also takes generic for Concerta. Mornings are a nightmare: he won't get out of bed, yells, calls me names, curses up a storm. Today he threw a shoe at me and a cup of water at his sister. I have been giving him his pill an hour before he is supposed to get up hoping it will kick in before he gets out of bed but it never seems to. It never gets any better.

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Hello Katcald! Omg i have a similar problem with my oldest daughter. She takes me through hell every morning especially when its time to get up for school. She has a high tolerance for meds and nothing seems to help her, well vyvanse does but once it gets out her system she is a mega talker, and her attitude is not great. I thought i was the only one going through that. Im looking for further education on how to be on her level, it is overwhelming but I know things will get better for the both of us have a bless day.

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Thanks for commenting, Sierra. I hate to mess with his medication because once it kicks in he is good but I don't know what to do about this behavior. Getting mad (like I did this morning) only makes it worse. What is your daughter's diagnosis? Reason I ask is I wonder if it my son has ODD along with the ADHD

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Hi Katcaid, sorry for the late post but to let you know I also have ADHD myself and I struggle daily especially trying to remember things and stay organize in all areas. My daughter is diagnose with ADHD associated with anxiety and defiant disorder.

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