Stressed

[Mnm2719]

Hi everyone I am new to the group. I have a 16 year old son who is the love of my life. He is also Adhd and drives me insane. I feel like I am going to lose it sometimes. He is just non stop annoying. He is on medication but he doesn't seem to help. My doctor suggested I take him to see a Adolescent Psychiatrist. That's my next step. He can be so loving at times and then a totally different child with a attitude. He is so disrespectful to me it's unreal. I have punished him and taken away things it doesn't work. I am lost and feel alone.

[Hidden]

Ugh! Welcome to parenting a teen! I agree about the adolescent psychiatrist. Many medicines make some conditions worse, and if he is incorrectly medicated, he will be annoying.

I will also tell you one of the best things I learned when my grown daughters were teens (I still have 13-year-old twins, so I am soooo lucky to be going through teenage years 4 times, all girls! The therapist told me that the girls are harder on me because I am the safe person in their lives. No matter what they do, I will love them. I wonder if that is what is happening here with your son? He can aggravate you to death, because you're not going anywhere. It's a mixed blessing!

[Mnm2719 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. Yes you are so right I am his safe place. Lucky me I think.

[Hidden in reply to Mnm2719]

Yeah, lucky us!! You might also question whether you're too nice when he is annoying. Remove yourself. For example, if you are preparing dinner, and he walks in and begins doing something, ask him to stop. If he does not, stop preparing dinner. I suspect he is pretty hungry! Tell him that you're not going to finish, because if he was hungry, he would not try to drive you nuts. If you are being too nice about his behavior, it might just be his way of pushing your buttons.

[Mnm2719 in reply to Hidden]

I have tried so many times to ignore him. It doesn't work. But I have realized I need to change my ways as well as to approach things with him. I am a push over and that is the biggest problem.

[ha11 in reply to Hidden]

does mild adhd goes away by time

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You mentioned that he is a loving child so you should know is the medication that’s altering his behavior are used to be a therapeutical foster mom for number of years dealing with a lot of teenagers multiple disorders one of the mean one was ADHD and one of the things that the doctor always emphasize is that summertime is always the worst time for these kids because Because a lot of the medication to ask for a lot of water I mean constantly drinking water not soda or anything ,also You have to make sure and have your air conditioner on have a nice cool

temperature in the home or you gonna end up with a sweaty dry mouth fast rated child and one thing I always say don’t ever raised your voice when you detect a situation coming on because it can escalate very fast and go really bad Because once you start speaking loud to Your child things can trigger off in the brain especially when the body is a little dehydrated and they’re feeling hot that is all grounds for Major disaster They can turn around and be extremely nasty towards you but believe me when I say that don’t ever mean what they say so very calm surrounding works best and make sure you let them know that the need to drink a lot of water not soda with their medication

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You mentioned that he is a loving child so you should know is the medication that’s altering his behavior are used to be a therapeutical foster mom for number of years dealing with a lot of teenagers multiple disorders one of the mean one was ADHD and one of the things that the doctor always emphasize is that summertime is always the worst time for these kids because Because a lot of the medication to ask for a lot of water I mean constantly drinking water not soda or anything ,also You have to make sure and have your air conditioner on have a nice cool

temperature in the home or you gonna end up with a sweaty dry mouth fast rated child and one thing I always say don’t ever raised your voice when you detect a situation coming on because it can escalate very fast and go really bad Because once you start speaking loud to Your child things can trigger off in the brain especially when the body is a little dehydrated and they’re feeling hot that is all grounds for Major disaster They can turn around and be extremely nasty towards you but believe me when I say that don’t ever mean what they say so very calm surrounding works best and make sure you let them know that the need to drink a lot of water not soda with their medication