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Hi all.  I have commented a few times but never posted.  Keep it short for now I have had clinical depression for 18 years. It's never really been too much of a problem had my blips cpn when I was pregnant because I came off my meds.  That's about it. There was a restructure at work nothing major. 10 jobs for 10 people. I was open and honest to new management explaining I sometimes get more emotional than the average person because of my depression.  Anyway guess who was the only person not to get a job, Yep me!  14 years experience and the only one with a desirable degree! Reason being it would not do my illness any good!  So this was probably the hardest stressful thing I have ever done in my life.... But managed to get a solicitor no win no fee.  Traveling 300 miles away for a 3 day employment tribunal. Its a massive stress I don't need. BUT employees think you won't fight because your too weak to.  No matter how rock bottom this gets me I would be horrified if I let it go. I would take that regret to my grave! Hugs to everyone xxxx

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Lilypuds

Well done for hanging in .... They are breaking the law just hard to prove so they think you will just give up ... Don't give up.  You are strong as someone who doesn't suffer from depression would struggle to do what you are doing.  Good luck and always believe in yourself 👍🏻

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Thank you xx

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Also I had a witness my ex manager. He has provided a witness statement. They have not denied what they said but they said they did not mean it that way?!? Erm ok xx

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makemepainfree

keep at it stay strong good luck they will keep it going as long as they can too break you......T

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EPHK

You are commendable for taking control and not letting go.  Taking control is empowering and liberating; some would make the choice to let go and look elsewhere avoiding the dragging through the mud and some would fight it.  Since you feel so strong, you are doing the right thing to pursue it without letting your vulnerable emotional state interfere.  It won't be an easy road but if you detach yourself emotionally as much as possible and look at it business wise you may protect yourself from getting too upset; what matters is the end result.  Unfortunately the work environment is a business environment and although there is always a pleasant and "caring" facade (note the speech marks) by the end of the day any emotion will be taken against the person who displays it.  You may be the most efficient and productive worker but once they want to use something to your detriment, presto, they have the ammunition.  Surrounding oneself with caring friends outside work refills the battery but in the workplace it is wise that one remains as "Swiss" and guarded as possible projecting a pleasant and "balanced" persona, as hard as it may be; those are the ones who survive it best.  There are plenty of people willing to show their true, honest selves outside work and this may be safe ground for a friendship . Best of luck with the tribunal.

Hi, well done for sticking in there. It may had stressed you out more, but at least you are sticking to your principals and showing them that their treatment of you was not right. The more people that are open about having anxiety and depression issues the more that it will not become such a taboo subject as it is now. I know people who are afraid to admit they have an issue because they are scared of loosing their jobs and also what people will think of them.

I've told my friends that I am suffering from depression and even have it on the summary of my linkedin account that I suffer from it and had to leave my last job because of it. That way when I get a new job they can't say they weren't aware of it. I've even had more hits on my linkedin account since I added details of my situation to my summary. :-D

Keep going and keep fighting for what you believe in. They don't expect people to fight and will think that because of your illness that you won't fight them on it. I know legal cases are harder when you are ill cause I am getting divorced at the moment and I find it hard dealing with the lawyers, but I won't give in just cause it leaves me anxious and tired, I am like you and have to fight for what I believe in and won't be walked over. :-D

Take care and good luck with the case.

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Matrix

Welcome lovely to meet you .You go girl but look after your self . They make sick , now if you are terminal they are trying to take benefits away and make you work . I will get of my soap box . Just think how fabulous showing them will feel x

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