Hurting

[Lilimay]

I feel so outta control of anything in my love life. He says im not spending enough time with him or giving him enough intimate attention he also brings my family up in almost every argument that deals with this even though they have nothing to so with it; I also work 2 jobs one as an armored truck gaurd sometimes overnight and the other in a gas booth on sundays i only get sat off and by the time i get home im exhausted. We recently also got into an argument were he got in my face and threatned to leave and i had a breakdown and busted my knuckle on a metal panel instead of taking my hurt out on him or myself for the most part. I used to be really lively and bubbly but im drained and tired and sad anymore. I dont know what to do. I dont want to leave because i love him how do i fix this?

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You can only fix yourself. Stay in touch with your family.

Consider what would happen if he left. Could you pay the bills? Would your life actually feel calmer, with no one starting arguments?

Is some of the pandemic stress which will end soon(ish) and things will get back to normal?

Take care of yourself.

[pam4him]

So sorry for the difficult situation. Does he work and/or help around the house? Maybe have a sit down serious discussion. Agree to be respectful and listen to each other. Try to find middle ground for both of you. For example, if he's home before you, could he do dinner and let you rest a little. That might give you a break to feel up to some intimacy. Hopefully together some compromises can be made. Prayers for peace, wisdom and guidance.