Feeling hopeless

[Anon0121_]

So I’ve been with my boyfriend over a year now and I never had any issues with getting wet if anything sometimes too wet, I also was always in the mood for sex with him and climaxing was easy. But recently over the last few weeks i don’t get wet as quickly and sometimes barely wet enough to the point sex can be painful at first. Aswell as this I’ve found it so difficult to climax during sex but could with other foreplay but now it’s hard to climax at all. We have sex regularly and I am attracted to him and love him obviously. It’s getting me down now that I think something is wrong with me and I feel like I’m letting him down too. I’m scared sex will never be the same again and that this issue will be long lasting. Any advice will be so appreciated.

[wobblybee Administrator Pioneer]

🙂 This can be a common problem, and there is general advice.

Vaginal dryness

Vaginal dryness is a common problem that many women have at some point in their lives. But there are things that can help.

Symptoms of vaginal dryness

You may have vaginal dryness if you:

feel sore or itchy in and around your vagina

feel pain or discomfort during sex

need to pee more often than usual

keep getting urinary tract infections (UTIs)

These things may make you feel less like you want to have sex.

Causes of vaginal dryness

You can get vaginal dryness if you:

go through the menopause

are breastfeeding

take contraceptive pills or antidepressants

have your womb removed (a hysterectomy)

have cancer treatments, such as chemotherapy

These things can cause a change in your hormone levels. This change can affect how much vaginal discharge or fluid you have.

You can also have vaginal dryness if you:

are not aroused during sex

use perfumed soaps, washes or douches in and around your vagina

have an underlying condition, such as diabetes or Sjögren's syndrome

How to treat vaginal dryness yourself

You can try these things before you see a GP. You can get most of them from a pharmacy without a prescription.

Do

use water-based lubricants before sex – put these in and around your vagina or on your partner's penis

use vaginal moisturisers for vaginal dryness – you can put these inside your vagina to keep it moist

use unperfumed soaps and washes around your vagina

try to enjoy more foreplay so you feel more aroused during sex

Don't

do not use perfumed soaps, washes and any douches in and around your vagina

do not put creams or lotions like petroleum jelly inside your vagina as it can cause an infection

do not use moisturisers that are not for your vagina

Non-urgent advice: See a GP if:

it's been a few weeks and things you can try yourself are not working

it's affecting your daily life

you have unusual discharge or bleeding from your vagina

you have bleeding after sex or in between your periods

If you're getting vaginal dryness because of changes in your hormone levels, you may be prescribed creams, gels, patches or medicines to increase a hormone called oestrogen. This is called HRT.

[Lemondrp]

HI feeling hopeless I've read your previous post maybe you need to ask gynecologist about your "wet" problem just sayin