Had a blood test today to check for genital herpes, I’m 53, been through menopause, been with my lovely bloke for 9 months. This sore patch appeared, plus cystitis type symptoms- urine test was clear. Can this just appear out of the blue? Have I got to tell previous partners? I’m mortified!
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😕 If you test positive it’s likely you will be given advice about notifying previous partners. But this can happen to anybody, and it’s obviously distressing. The important thing is knowing how to deal with it.
If you have genital herpes, your previous sexual partners should get tested. The doctor or nurse at the clinic can discuss this with you and help you tell your partners without letting them know it's you who has the virus.
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Treatment the first time you have genital herpes
You may be prescribed:
antiviral medicine to stop the symptoms getting worse – you need to start taking this within 5 days of the symptoms appearing
cream for the pain
If you have had symptoms for more than 5 days before you go to a sexual health clinic, you can still get tested to find out the cause.
Treatment if the blisters come back
Go to a GP or sexual health clinic if you have been diagnosed with genital herpes and need treatment for an outbreak.
Antiviral medicine may help shorten an outbreak by 1 or 2 days if you start taking it as soon as symptoms appear.
But outbreaks usually settle by themselves, so you may not need treatment.
Recurrent outbreaks are usually milder than the first episode of genital herpes.
Over time, outbreaks tend to happen less often and be less severe. Some people never have outbreaks.
Some people who have more than 6 outbreaks in a year may benefit from taking antiviral medicine for 6 to 12 months.
If you still have outbreaks of genital herpes during this time, you may be referred to a specialist.
How to deal with outbreaks yourself
If you have been diagnosed with genital herpes and you're having an outbreak:
Do
keep the area clean using plain or salt water to prevent blisters becoming infected
apply an ice pack wrapped in a flannel to soothe pain
apply petroleum jelly (such as Vaseline) or painkilling cream (such as 5% lidocaine) to reduce pain when you pee
wash your hands before and after applying cream or jelly
pee while pouring water over your genitals to ease the pain
Don't
do not wear tight clothing that may irritate blisters or sores
do not put ice directly on the skin
do not touch your blisters or sores unless you're applying cream
do not have vaginal, anal or oral sex until the sores have gone away
How genital herpes is passed on
Genital herpes is very easy to pass on (contagious) from the first tingling or itching of a new outbreak (before any blisters appear) to when sores have fully healed.
You can get genital herpes:
from skin-to-skin contact with the infected area (including vaginal, anal and oral sex)
when there are no visible sores or blisters
if a cold sore touches your genitals
by transferring the infection on fingers from someone else to your genitals
by sharing sex toys with someone who has herpes
You cannot get genital herpes:
from objects such as towels, cutlery or cups – the virus dies very quickly when away from your skin
Protecting against genital herpes
You can reduce the chances of passing herpes on by:
using a condom every time you have vaginal, anal or oral sex – but herpes can still be passed on if the condom does not cover the infected area
avoiding vaginal, anal or oral sex if you or your partner has blisters or sores, or a tingle or itch that means an outbreak is coming
not sharing sex toys – if you do, wash them and put a condom on them
Why genital herpes comes back
Genital herpes is caused by a virus called herpes simplex. Once you have the virus, it stays in your body.
It will not spread in your body to cause blisters elsewhere. It stays in a nearby nerve and causes blisters in the same area.
If you can, avoid things that trigger your symptoms.
Triggers can include:
ultraviolet light – for example, from sunbeds
friction in your genital area – for example, from sex (lubricant may help) or tight clothing
Some triggers are unavoidable, including:
being unwell
having a period
surgery on your genital area
a weakened immune system – for example, from having chemotherapy for cancer
Dont be mortified, who doesnt have sex and how many of us haven't had unprotected sex in their lifetime? You've had some amazing advice above, take it and move on, life is too short 🙂
Went to a sexual health clinic who advised me it’s not an STI- taken bloods and swabs but so far it’s a mystery! I feel a bit better - so no idea what it is!