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Hello women! I’m new here. Honestly I’m feeling down every day since I lost my pregnancy (three months ago). I had a hard time while I was pregnant, my ex partner didn’t want our baby and he refused me. I was crying every day. In the 3rd pregnancy exam, doctors told me my baby couldn’t live because she has some genetic problems. It was the worst day in my life. I wanted to die. My ex partner told me good luck and goodbye. I had to decide to abort a few days later. I won’t forget the pain that I had in the abortion. I’ll never forget how my ex partner left me while I was feeling depressed. It’s around three months that I lost my baby and I can’t overcome it. I’ve sent a lot of messages to my ex but he never responded again. My family is not exactly like caring family. Nobody know as I feel and I live now. Since my ex partner left me I’ve tried to get a job but it’s so hard and I don’t feel like doing things. I’m 27 and I’m desesperated. If somebody has been in a similar situation I’d like to know her. I don’t know how to continue. Thanks for reading. Greetings

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I’m so very sorry this has happened, it is devastating. I have a very close relative, pregnant, whose baby has also inherited a genetic condition which is causing concern. Have you spoken to your GP, has any counselling been offered.

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LuzSunshine06 in reply towobblybee

Thanks for reading, I’ve been with a psychologist but it’s expensive for me right now because I can’t get a job and pay for it. So I’ve stopped it. I know my baby was unlucky I couldn’t do anything to she lives. It was my fist pregnancy so I feel so guilty.

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sweetsusie

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your baby, but I think you dodged a bullet when it comes to your ex. I know you love him, but you have got to move on...the sooner the better. You're dealing with a double loss, actually...a betrayal and abandonment and the loss of your child. You're 27 and you will rise above this...just give yourself time...be easy on yourself....

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LuzSunshine06 in reply tosweetsusie

Thanks you so much, it’s true I need to overcome a double loss, I had a lot of dreams but now I feel empty.

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sweetsusie in reply toLuzSunshine06

I'm sure you do feel empty...I've been there more than once in my life. I'm 71 years old...so I have a few "miles" on me. You just wait...you'll come out the other side off this a stronger, much more aware person, and continue to live a wonderful life!

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Wedgey

I feel very sad that this has happened to you. I'm sure almost everyone has been left by a partner, but not in such a traumatic way. I understand that you must feel pretty lonely at the moment. I know that it's not much consolation to tell you that things will get better I guess time, but in my experience time does heal. I will be thinking of you. Take care of yourself.

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