All the help I can get!

[True-Love1406]

Hi all, having previously lost 4 stones on SW - since first lockdown I have managed to:

lost my job

endured a serious relationship breakdown with my son

put on almost 3 stones

I had a really positive interview last week and they asked me if I would come in to their offices - in a panic I order some size 14 dresses, sure that the 12s that I had would never fit - the 14s arrived and didn't even get close to closing - that send me spiralling - so the hard work to get down from an 18 to a 12 was lost! I can't even explain the feeling of disappointment in myself.

Luckily they have switched the next interview to zoom - thank goodness - however, fear has set it that I get the job and have nothing to wear....I am not even sure a 16 would fit to be honest.

So..what have I done? I have cut out booze (really hard for me), pulled out all my SW books and have given myself a target of 2 stone off. I think that's a healthy start! To my surprise I have already gone down 6lbs this week (and I do know that's just a start week and it will go down to 1.5 - 2lbs a week) but I feel really motivated - however, I know how easy it is for motivation to slip - especially with the difficulties I am in the midst of... Please, stick with me and help motivate me to do better! I am embarrassed to say what my weight is - but needless to say - I must change. I feel like my mental health will improve with improved health and fitness. Just finished week 5 couch to 5k and really do believe that perseverance will bring reward...if only I can stay away from the wine and crisps...my mind is already telling me - oh it's saturday and you have done your run - you can have wine tonight..... booze paradox! Any help and motivation would be sincerely appreciated.

[Lytham 3 stone]

Hello and welcome, great to have you with us. MASSIVE well done on your loss so far, great start!

We hope you'll be joining us on all the Events, Challenges and Clubs that we run, especially a weekly weigh in and the Daily Diary, the best places to give and receive advice, support and bucket loads of encouragement.

Here's the link to Pinned Posts where you'll find them all, Good Luck and hope to see you around! x

healthunlocked.com/weight-l...

[True-Love1406 in reply to Lytham]

Can I ask, does everyone then get to see the weight if I send the repy? I see some of the replies here dont seem to have weights on? I mean on the weigh in thread.

[Lytham 3 stone in reply to True-Love1406]

Yes, everyone will be able to see it, but don't worry we're all in the same boat and are right behind you x

[BridgeGirl Administrator SS Supercook 2 stone in reply to True-Love1406]

The people whose weight you can see will all be regular, supportive members of one of the weekly weigh ins. That's how they get their badges. Not everyone joins but they're missing out as it's great for team support and for getting to know a gang who will be with you all the way, supporting and encouraging each other

[True-Love1406 in reply to BridgeGirl]

so I just reply to the person who writes the weigh-in thread with all my details on it? sorry but I feel I am being a bit daft ...

[BridgeGirl Administrator SS Supercook 2 stone in reply to True-Love1406]

That's right You find the post (it's always in Pinned Posts, third on the list) read the opening post which explains it all and then reply to the host. Then see what everyone else is up to and give them a few words of encouragement, as they will for you It will be obvious when you get there. Are you going for the Monday weigh in?

[Eleanorba Maintainer]

Hi there True-Love1406 ! What an incredibly tough time you're having, I'm so sorry. But what a fantastic loss this week! You CAN do it again!! Do join us in the DrinkLess thread if booze is one of your problems - it's for anyone trying either to cut down on alcohol or give it up altogether. healthunlocked.com/weight-l...

The great team of Admins will be along soon to tell you all about what's on offer here - weekly weigh-ins and the Daily Diary are amazing, friendly places to keep accountable and motivated.

[lea57-49r Maintainer 3st 7lbs]

Welcome True-Love1406. I wish you the very best on your weight loss journey. You can do this.

[WasYoYo80 Maintainer 3st 7lbs]

Welcome - I’m so glad you’ve found the forum - your story really reminded me of mine. I lost half my body weight and got down to a 10/12 and maintained for 2 years and then my mum died, my partner of 20 years walked out & lockdown happened and I was put into shielding for a year; I gained nearly 4 stone. I was devastated but I joined the forum at the end of March and I’ve lost 19 pounds so far. Everyone has supported me in the weekly weigh ins, daily diaries (where we log our meal plans for accountability) & daily chats. I have gained so much confidence and have stopped beating myself up about the gain. I have realised that I don’t need to comfort eat when I can share my worries and stresses with others who are on the same journey, and it was a great sign of strength to pick myself up and do something positive to improve my health. Best of luck and hope to see you around the forum each day!

[True-Love1406 in reply to WasYoYo80]

Thank you YoYo80, a real inspiration to be involved in this group.

[gman1961 Restart April 2024]

Hi True - Love1406,Great support on this forum,always open ,and it's free.

Sometimes we have so much going on in our lives be go off track ,I'm sure many off us on here can relate to that

Well done for sharing with us and good luck.

Gary

[springersrule Moderator 76kg]

Hi True-Love and welcome. You have had a shocker of a year but you have already made great in-roads to changing that round. Things will come right for you.

As others have said, do join at least a weigh in day and the daily diaries. Both offer fabulous support, advice and friendship. Don't be embarrassed by your weight, you'll see we have all started somewhere and need to shed anything from a few pounds to many many stones. My own journey started last september at 153kg (24.1 stone) and i'm now 61kg (9 1/2 stone) lighter with another 10-15kg still to go.

I am not only a lot lighter but i'm healthier both physically and mentally. I too went through a major relationship breakdown with my youngest son (2 years ago now and the police were involved 😪) but this year we have started to rebuild it. There's still a very long way to go for us but fairy steps will see us get there.

Wishing you the very best on your journey and very much looking forward to seeing your progress on the different threads/posts on this forum that help us all on our journeys 💖. xx

[True-Love1406 in reply to springersrule]

That is so kind and well done to you. I feel so glad I took the courage to post. I will do weigh ins once I figure that out!

[springersrule Moderator 76kg in reply to True-Love1406]

Oh i remember that courage needed to write a first post lol. I jumped into the weigh in with both feet and a very deep breath and haven't looked back. It has helped me through the ups and downs including worrying about always losing!! Weird i know, but it happened 😂😂

Joining the diaries took another heap of courage and a few more weeks of psyching myself up but i need not have worried. Being here is like chatting with old friends in the pub .

Read through what others have written in them both and then join in and find your rythm, it really is very easy 😍

I was a shrinking violet when i started and now they cant get rid of me (not that they want to lol) and are they are kind enough to read and respond to my looong ramblings 😉😉😂😂 xx

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Hi T-L, sorry you've had a rough time and I hope you'll be able to mend your relationship with your boy❣You've come to the right place for food and fitness support, so welcome aboard! Wishing you all the best with your goals and looking forward to seeing you around the forum!

If you'd like to click on my profile, you'll find my lil blog on giving up alcohol that might be of use..

[Milly6q]

Hi there I am responding to offer my support x I joined weight watchers in Jan and have so far lost 2 stone. I completely get what u say when u say it isn't easy. I am sometimes my own worst enemy and it is far easier not to think about what I eat and to be accountable. I still have a long way to go to lose what I have ignored in the way of of excess weight. I gave myself a kick up the bum and am setting on to a new challenge of 0 to 5k

[Lytham 3 stone in reply to Milly6q]

Hello and welcome, great to have you with us. MASSIVE well done on your journey so far, great work!

We hope you'll be joining us on all the Events, Challenges and Clubs that we run, especially a weekly weigh in and the Daily Diary, the best places to give and receive advice, support and bucket loads of encouragement.

Here's the link to Pinned Posts where you'll find them all, Good Luck and hope to see you around! x

healthunlocked.com/weight-l...

[True-Love1406 in reply to Milly6q]

well done so far on your weight loss. I am on week 6 of couch to 5 and I am shocked at how well I am doing. I need to face the next challenge of actually logging my weight.... arrrggghhh

[Milly6q]

The scales can be very daunting i know . Part of the reason I weighed myself in kg was so i could give my weight a number however I have to look up how much it actually is in stones etc. A bit of self denial although saying that I was well aware of the fact I was gaining weight through lockdown and I am actually relieved i hadn't done as much damage as I thought. Sometimes it's not about the numbers it's also how you feel the power you gain, the little subtle changes to your body. You can do this no matter how bad the number draw a line in the sand and take ownership x i am here if u need a hand to hold x someone to pick u up or just to listen

[True-Love1406 in reply to Milly6q]

That is so kind. I have now secured a personal trainer - and I really can't afford it because I lost my job 6 months ago - but I know I will never feel better if I dont get the weight back off - nothing fits me! I am glad that we are following each other - so we can be supportive together. Well, I suppose I should go and commit to a number.... wish me luck

[Milly6q]

Good luck x

[natalieZza]

I would cut out the wine, but you have done it before so you can do it again and keep it off this time! Well done for getting help, I am in the same position and i know how you feel, but really it is what is in the inside that matters more than anything , good luck keep going XXX

[BridgeGirl Administrator SS Supercook 2 stone in reply to natalieZza]

Hi natalieZza, that's a really encouraging reply: unfortunately, this is an old post so you may not get a response.