Why does my mind and body work like this?
I fail by having a biscuit because the scales arent saying what I want them too. Makes no sense at all but then, I have to have more as I think what the hell!
I know it's wrong, I know I have to condition myself to not have rewards/ treats but there is this little thing inside me that just wont behave 😔
CautiousK
I do exactly the same 
Hi Cautiousk,
We've all been there with something that tempts us to undo our good work ! Biscuit, crisps , cake- whatever it is!
You have pin pointed what you need to do to change this- to re condition yourself which can be easier said than done. One way to do it is not buy the biscuits in, that is the most drastic and effective BUT for me, until you feel better on top of things, I would substitute them for healthy snacks so it feels more manageable. For me my substitutes are plain yogurt with fruit and dark chocolate. This means I am not tempted to go too far the wrong way. Some people find crackers, ryevita, stuff like that. I eat lots of vegetables and fruit that aren't calorie dense which fill me up and help me loose weight so, I am in a different place but, remember how hard it was for me to swap to healthier snacks. Fruit really helped me and melon is so good as it's full of water but sweet? I had to start thinking every time I ate something healthy this is helping my weightloss. I'm not perfect and my journey has gone up and down.
It is too easy to feel you have failed but, seeing it as a wobble not a fail works for me. Remember how important it is to you to loose weight. Remember also that sometimes the scales are unforgiving to all of us here.
You can do it!
Hi Bee-bop,
Thank you for your reply.
I just get so frustrated with myself as its comfort eating really when I get a little low or lonely.
I know it's not right and I have set myself goals that I really do want to achieve. I just need to have a stern word with myself.
I am having lots of yoghurt and have introduced seeds to my diet but I love to bake with my granddaughter and we did gingerbread men for her mummy and daddy and for my mum and dad and a few ended up at my house and so the story goes.
I will give myself a good talking to .
Thanks again for your advice x
It’s a very deeply ingrained social norm that we ‘reward’ our selves with ‘treats’ that are most often sweet. I don’t really know how you get passed this, perhaps cook or make something else with your granddaughter? We make “Silly Faces” or even just pretty patterns with her salad, cheese and fruit etc.
That's something I can try, thank you 😊
You’re welcome 😊. Remember it takes time to change habits, you’ll get there
Hi CautiousK,
This is definitely something I'm sure everyone is guilty of. Try not to think of it as failing though, it's ok to have small treats and one biscuit isn't the be all and end all! But if you think you've already failed it almost makes it easier to trip yourself up further. I know it is hard though because I struggle too.
Recently I have being trying to treat myself without using food (because I have no self control at all and will eat the whole package of anything). I brought myself flowers when I went food shopping and I also ran myself a hot bubble bath with my favourite bubble scented bath soap. I am trying to show myself there's lots of ways I can reward myself that isn't related to cake lol. Just thought I would share my idea in case it helps.
You've done really well losing 5lb already!
Hi Humblebee,
Thank you so much for your encouragement.
It's so silly really as I know it's wrong so who do I think I am fooling by sneaking a treat? I feel like a naughty toddler but i should know better.
Anyway, i have reminded myself of why i want to do this and hopefully will embrace learning to be healthy.😊
Aww, I'm the same CautiousK , tell myself that I will only have one, then one more, just one last one ... 
I'm trying to drink more water to try fill up, and distract myself which helps a bit.
Thank you Blind_side 63. It really does help to voice these things and know that it is not just me as I do tend to self depreciate a lot with my failings.
If anyone new is reading these comments I hope they are encouraged to ask for help on these forums as everyone has been so informative and supporting on here. It has been a positive experience for me as I dont do any social media
CautiousK🤗
I am so guilty of the self depreciation too CautiousK - will see others doing it and wonder why they are being so harsh on themselves, but realise I do it to myself! I don't think I would never be as awful to someone else as I can be to myself!
I count my biscuit and it means I can’t have anymore😇 food tracking helps so much even if I go over them.....I can see my bad choices as I conveniently forget 🐷
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