Grief

[Kay9Jo]

Hi, my husband passed away just over a year ago I find now I just eat for comfort and being lonely I just fell like a food addict I'm 5' 2" and weight 11st 1lbs.

Has anyone else experienced this after losing some one.

Thanks

[IndigoBlue61]

Hello and welcome Kay9Jo

First of all, please accept my condolences, losing your husband must have been dreadful, so sad. I’m not surprised food has been a comfort for you, and you are most certainly not alone. So very well done on joining this forum, now is the time to think of yourself and prioritise your own well being. 😊

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[Whydothis]

Hello Kay9Jo

Sorry to hear about your husband. It is now 5 years for me, and comfort eating was very easy to get into and hard to get out of. My only way out of it was to throw myself into all the activities I could find that involved other people (U3A classes, joining a choir, going to talks...) One of my best things was joining Ramblers and going out for walks with a group of others - it was very good friendly company as well as giving me some exercise, which gave me the incentive to start gettin a bit fitter. Doing some volunteering has also helped.

Now you are through the first awful year it should get a little easier. When you want to raid the biscuit tin or the fridge try to find a job that you can decide to do first - something small in the garden is best for me - then one job leads to another and before you know it another hour has gone and you didn't eat!

I hope I am not making this sound too easy - it isn't - but it is worth it, as for me everything became easier to cope with once I started to feel a bit healthier.

All the best from me.

[Kay9Jo in reply to Whydothis]

Thank you Whydothis I already walk and do line dancing I also quilt I'm sure I will get there in the end.

[Lytham 3 stone]

Hello, yes, the same happened to me when I lost my husband, I'm so very sorry for your loss .

Have you considered Low Carb Healthy Fat? The food is gorgeous and you really don't feel hungry?

Good luck on your journey x

[Kay9Jo in reply to Lytham]

Thank you Lytham for your kind words.

[Nanna42020x]

Hi Kaye

So sorry to hear about your loss. I lost both my parents within three months, the stress of going back and forth to the hospital was immense , only comfort food kept me going. I then turned to alcohol to mask the pain, I put on nearly two stones on a already overweight body. It’s been a long three years and it’s only now I’m doing something about it. I wish you all the best take it slowly you will get there. Grief is so hard so don’t beat yourself up on bad days x

[Kay9Jo in reply to Nanna42020x]

Hi Nanna,42020

Thank you for your reply I hope we both come out the other side smiling x

[Darp]

Try not to give up I know it must be terrible however maybe try a new hobby and cut down it’s not easy to lose weight I’ve been trying for two years and I used to be really slim good luck

[IndigoBlue61 in reply to Darp]

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[Kay9Jo in reply to Darp]

Thanks Drarp, for your kind word I am going to try doing jig saw's to try and take my mind off food.

[Janeat60 6lbs]

It's been 9 years for me now. I guess I have phases of eating chocolate and other comfort foods. My downfall was also alcohol in those first few years. I was 52 when he died (at 54) and tomorrow I will be 62. I can't say it's been easy, I am now 4 stone heavier, partly because of inactivity due to osteoarthritis, but what I will say is you must not be hard on yourself when you have those days. I'm truly sorry for your more recent loss.