Joining a weigh in today, so something new for me. Yesterday made me realise another obstacle in my path that I have to be wary of...peer pressure. Yesterday's failure was down to me because this is my journey and I had a choice, but peer pressure had a part and that's something I think I will analyse in my blog today.
Having lots of people drinking and eating takeaway is really hard to resist joining in. But now I'm armed. I know it's there and I'm prepared.
Good luck in your journeys today.
Stay strong.
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The Saturday Superstars seem to be slow getting up this morning but you'll get a warm welcome when they appear. Meanwhile, you can chat to anyone who has made it to the scales
Peer pressure can be a problem. Best to create a plan for each occasion. What am I going to eat and drink and how much am I going to have, are good questions to ask (and answer) yourself beforehand.
If you know what restaurant (eating establishment) you're going to, then checking out the menu online beforehand and choosing what you'll have can really help.
Some peers are uncaring and you'll have to learn navigate them but many will be supportive if you let them know what you're up to.
Close family can also be dingbats and that's another story
If I am out for a meal, I always plan ahead from the menu what I will order.
Takeaways are bit more tricky 🤔
Next time why don't you suggest you make your own 'fakeaway'? That way you still have control? If i have a Chinese I normally opt for an egg fu yung, if Indian, a tandoori chicken with the salad,
I'm following lchf by the way, this does tend to make things a bit easier! Easy really just to order a protein with salad or veg!
You will get there, half the battle is recognising the danger points, and you're doing a grand job there!!
Yes peer pressure is so hard as you get a mixed reaction when you say y
Hi, I just wanted to say thank you for posting this. I read it this morning and I’ve been thinking about your words all day and they’ve really helped me. I’ve been thinking of giving up alcohol to help with my weight loss and I have a particular friend that always pushes me to have a drink and I do usually cave in. But your words about it being your journey in particular really stuck with me and will really help me in those situations.
The replies have also been super helpful reading for me, thank you to everyone and please keep it going both towards your goals and helping other. It’s really helping me thank you x
I had to get rid of a particularly toxic friendship and a lot of excessive drinking was a part of that. You're right, you need to be clear about your own wants and needs, otherwise friendships can become unbalanced.
And you're not alone. Have you spotted the DrinkLess Club? You'll find it in Pinned Posts along with the weekly weigh-in, Daily Diary and much more. Joining a weigh in is a great starting point as the team support is wonderful. I see you're also a runner so you may enjoy our new Fit is Fun club which starts on Monday. You'll find all these posts here healthunlocked.com/nhsweigh...
I don't know if you have an eating plan in mind but if you've heard the message 'eat less, move more', this explains why that often fails us psychologytoday.com/us/blog... My recommendation would be to eat real food, home cooked, avoiding processed foods - and that includes anything labelled low fat or light or diet as it's all heavily processed.
The forum is set up for sharing information and support so, wherever you go, please chat, ask questions and encourage others: that way, we share the support around. You’ll meet some wonderful people along the way who will be happy to share their successes and their struggles😊
Hello Hidden . Just read what you said here. It does make me really cross to hear about bods being pressured into drinking, and I'm inclined to wonder about this particular 'friend.' Drinking from time to time and in small quantities is perfectly fine, provided one is 'in control' of when and how many. However, one does have to wonder why your acquaintance (I'm going to avoid 'friend' for the moment) feels the need to lean on you to join him/her. It does suggest that the problem is theirs, not yours.
I'm not a fan of looking at people in a slighting or superior way but sometimes they make it necessary. Sometimes one has to adopt that view to defend oneself and to live forward as one wishes to do, changing one's habits to live better, and leaving behind anyone who tries to block or interfere with that growth.
Why does this person need someone to drink with them, and when you do, is it just one drink or does it develop into a session in which you drink more than you intended? It's not easy to change one's comforting, fun-habit of drinking regularly - I know! - so you need people around you who make that change difficult like a hole in the head. Please either avoid them, or go prepared inside the Strong You and just say No.
Go with a non-alcoholic drink in your head that you'd like instead; you've got it in your head and you can see that twinkling emerald-green lime and soda, or that tonic with ice and lemon, bubbling attractively in your head, and you want it. If this person tries to persist, feel sorry for them, You don't have to be unpleasant. You just need to consider that it might be they who have the booze problem, not you.
A Non-alcoholic Cheers to You, and to Your Good Health this Year!
I'm glad I was able to help in some way. Sometimes friends can't see how unhelpful they are being, and sometimes they need an enabler to justify their own actions. Perhaps try explaining to this particular friend about your weight loss journey, and that you need them to encourage you to reduce or stop your alcohol intake, not to increase it. If they then continue or persist in continuing to pressure you into drinking, then maybe it's time to end that particular friendship, as they are certainly no friend.
It is your journey, it is unique and special to you, as unique and special as you are. Always remember that you have a choice. Smile and enjoy yourself through it and see the difference each day healthier makes to your life. You've given up rubbish food to become healthier, you've given up alcohol to become healthier, maybe you should also consider giving up some people too.
Most takeaway stuff is sheer unadulterated Carp of the First Order and it's Mighty Expensive. Give your peers five years and they will be walking behind lolluping beer-guts and hiding furred up arteries that are nothing less than walking time-bombs. You don't want to die young and have lousy health for ten years before that.
A buttered baked potato, topped with cheese and or ham or bacon and a big helping of crunchy salad with tomato and avocado, drizzled with lemon juice and olive oil. Food for the gods... about five minutes prep and half the price of a crud-burger or rubbish pizza.
One good glass of red is ten times better for you than cats' pee lager or even ale.
But you know all of this, being an intelligent chap.
There must be a colleague with decent taste for good nosh with whom you could join culinary forces from time to time?
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