Trying again where I’ve already failed before... lots of times 😞

[Nikib12]

Good morning all,

As I write this I’m sat here very optimistic that today will be the day and that I will really do it this time. But there’s a dooming doubt that it will end up like all the other times.

Here’s a little background about me,

I’m 29, female, I am in a medically induced menopause and on HRT.

I currently weigh in at 16 st 7.3lb

I want to lose at least 5 stone,

I am unable to do much if any physical activity due to illness, but I am hoping this will change soon!

I have been trying to lose this weight for 10 years, I’ve lost some and then put it back on.

I let a bad day, turn into a bad week, turn into a bad month!

What’s spurred my decision today, well that will be the massive embarrassment I had in a theme park yesterday where I was kicked off a ride because the seat belt wouldn’t do up, leaving my in laws, children and my husband all fitting within the belts, I was mortified, as I walked down the ride, my husband got out and followed me, but it didn’t help, I’ve always been embarrassed and ashamed of my weight inwards but for this to be such a public shaming by someone else has completely winded me.

I need to do this, I need help and support.

I am a serial failure at weight loss but I’m adamant I need to succeed this time.

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Welcome back, Nikib12

I'm so sorry to hear about your humiliating experience. That must have been absolutely awful! However, to turn a negative into a positive, perhaps that's exactly the catalyst you needed, to get started on your new healthy lifestyle.

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[Joanney69]

What an awful experience for you, Nikib12 🙁 but as moreless has said, use it as a springboard into a new, healthier way of life 😊 sometimes it takes a shock to make us snap out of the bad habits we have, & take a long hard look at ourselves - very often we don't like what we see! But, you can do something about it, and we can all support you along the way 😊💪 this forum is what has made a huge difference to me, like you, I have lost a bit, then put it back on plus some more, several times in the past, but this time, I have altered my way of thinking as well as my way of eating - it's not a diet, it's a healthy eating plan for life 😊 I don't ban any foods, I count them into my calories for the day - if I want to have a meal out, I make breakfast and lunch lighter, so I have enough calories to enjoy the meal later. I'm sure, being on a 'diet' you have previously excluded certain foods, which then makes you feel like you're missing out & more likely to give up. No need 😊

Also, I understand the bad day turning into a bad week, then a bad month - I'm sure we've all been there 😕 but if you use this forum regularly, daily if possible, you always have someone who understands, if you have had a bad day, don't keep it to yourself, come here & share, draw a line under it and start afresh tomorrow.

There is a weigh in every day, if you would like to join Saturday superstars, you would be very welcome, or any day that suits you, that way you get to know your own weigh in group and mutual support helps tremendously.

Run the bmi checker, to find out your own calorie range, as not eating enough is a sure fire way to feeling hungry and giving up.

Good luck, hope to see you around 😊 💪

[Nikib12 7lbs in reply to Joanney69]

Thankyou joanney69, I will join a weigh in day definitely. I think the thing with me is I try and set unrealistic targets that are bound to fail

[Joanney69 in reply to Nikib12]

You need to be kind to yourself 😊

Don't think about the end result, as I found looking at the 7 stone the bmi checker suggested I needed to lose, too big a mountain to climb. On the suggestion of some of the lovely people here, I broke it down, firstly half a stone, then a stone, and so on - mini goals are so much more achievable, & you can make them personal to you 😁 into the next stone for example, or 5% of your starting weight - there's loads once you start thinking about it. And when you achieve one, I find it spurs me on to set another - but if you don't reach it in a set time, it doesn't matter - keeping on putting one foot in front of the other in a forwards motion is the only way to go 😊 it's not a race, & slow and steady is the best way to lose weight - it's more likely to stay lost 😁

Enjoying the journey and making new, good habits, while getting rid of the bad ones is where I am now - had someone told me that back in January, I would have laughed in their face 🤣

You can do this, today is the first day of the rest of your life 😊 💪

[mumchum]

Sorry you had such an awful experience but that day is over with now and in the past. This is a fresh start. I need to loose a few stone but started with an aim of 1 stone. In fact today I decided to break that down into half a stone and I am yet to loose a pound (only been 4 days though). I am giving myself little pep talks and taking things literally hour by hour, taking off the pressure. Every time I do something healthy however small, like volunteer to go upstairs to fetch something, eat a piece of fruit, jot down some calories I have eaten, I am noticing and feeling pleased with myself. Start off small, praise every little success and be kind to yourself. It doesn't matter if you need to keep on trying, the fact that you are trying shows that you have it in you to change - that's not failing, that's succeeding in the longer term - hope that makes sense!