Disappointed over cancelled plans

I had asked a group of work friends to come to lunch tomorrow but no one can come so I decided to cancel the whole thing.

I feel really disappointed over this!

Am I just being a selfish cow feeling this way as I do understand that things happen and you can't always make it but it upsets me though when things like that happen.

[lucigret]

I think we all feel disappointed when our plans don't pan out Jo. I am sure that was not their intention though. Maybe you could do packed lunches for your friends to have at work instead

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Maybe it wasn't their intention but that's not the point as this has happened before but it's no problem as lessons have been learned and in future I will save myself the disappointment and not bother again and stick with the ones I go out with regularly.

[Tiggerr]

It happens Jo. A friend of mine organised a girl's outing on our little river ferry only a few weeks back. Of the 24 that enthusiastically said they'd go only about 7 pitched up.

Organise another one but if that one falls through I'd start wondering who my friends are and maybe look for different ones. That might just be me but I'm all for stopping at giving people two chances and then moving on.

[bikegrrrl 1lb]

I would be a bit upset too, it's natural.

Can you do something nice for yourself with the extra time this has suddenly given you? For me that would be a walk, a swim, a trip to an exhibition, something like that - but whatever floats your own boat?

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I'm OK now thanks. Lessons have been learned from this morning and I won't bother again. Save myself the disappointment as this has happened before as well.

[gman1961 Restart April 2024]

Hi Jo ,

I recently went to a leaving lunch ,

Hardly anyone there .

I say the numbers will always drop as people say they will attend and don't .

Quality not quantity.

Hope you're ok.

Gary

[veggiegirl1906 10 kg]

I think sometimes you have to accept that people are busy! I personally have to be told of plans about 1-2 months in advance to make sure I have time for them. You could try arrange another one but further in advance and with lots of notice

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Yes I accept people are busy and I appreciate that but still I was disappointed as I was looking forward to it and had made an effort as well.

This has happened before with them but it's no problem as this incident has taught me some lessons and I won't ask again and stick with the lady I regularly go to lunch with.