I started my weight loss journey last Saturday. My husband said he would support me. He has and I lost a few pounds.
Today he asks me if I want ice cream. Why ask me knowing my willpower is crap and put that temptation in front of me... I said no but now I have a terrible urge to try to get downstairs to eat one...arhhh..
Resist the ice cream 
I have just asked my husband why he does this to me, although I have to say he doesn't do it very often any more.
His reply ' I wanted to give you something nice or do something nice for you'.
He has now learnt that this is not 'nice'. I have been so cross with him on occasions and bad tempered when he has offered me things I really want and am trying to resist, that now he daren't do it.
What does he do instead, stands in the kitchen as he is this afternoon, helping me by making a large fish pie to be broken down into portions and frozen for a homemade ready meal, calorie counted (no he didn't work out the calories, he followed the calorie counted recipe) and he has prepared all the veg for roasted veg for dinner tonight.
You just have to re train them to find other ways of doing 'something nice'.
Mind you sometimes people try to sabotage when they can see you are doing really well and they are jealous - just walk away from the temptation and stay strong
Thanks lucigret you have trained your husband well.
I have tried numerous times to say don’t ask me if I want anything nice.
He’s just made me a lovely lunch of fish with salad but I suppose it must have slipped his mind that I don’t want to make bad choices anymore. 🙂
My husband has discovered that he enjoys the food I do, had no choice really as I won't cook separate meals! He has changed over the past year with me and enjoys cooking new dishes.
Your husband is obviously trying to be supportive as he made you a lovely lunch - just keep saying 'no thank you' and he will take it on bored soon
I don't think anybody would dare try and sabotage my plan especially since this heart thing has happened. My husband sat at the side of me last night with a tub of Haagen Daz peanut butter ice-cream and I was fine with it. I've told him to eat what he wants and not to change anything just because of me. In the same breath I told him never to ask me if I want any of what he is eating because if for some strange reason I wanted some I'd ask.
I do think some offers are born of ignorance. I'm going on the "one small ice cream/biscuit etc won't hurt you" type comments. These sorts of remarks could only come from people who have no idea at all about calorie content and how to read labels
I’m with Lucigret. If someone wants to do something nice for me then support my efforts to lose weight, walk with me, praise me, encourage me, DONT offer me rubbish!! Lol 😂
Good idea, Anna 😊 we took the dog to the woods the other day & OH thought we would have something to eat & not do a walk! I bought him some lunch, then we did a 2 mile walk in the sunshine ☀ 😊 he only put up mild resistance 😂
Just to play devils advocate for a moment, if you only started last weekend it is entirely possible that your husband just hasn’t got used to it yet. There are no shortage of posts here from people who have had little lapses because their old ingrained habits die hard.
I have had this problem too, I think it's just being so used to me shoving anything and everything in my mouth, it's taken my OH a while to get used to the idea 💡 😊 I have also had the 'thought you might like something nice' comment & I appreciate that, but now something nice is fruit 🍓 or flowers 💐 not chocolate 🍫 or crisps 🍟 (I don't eat the flowers by the way! 😋)
He is a lot better, the more I make good choices the more he gets it. He also makes me lovely soup 😊
You keep doing what you're doing, you're doing great 😊 💪 he will catch up eventually 😂👍
I think the other contributors are right. Doing nice things are often associated with food. Its in our collective human heritage I'm sure! I think you should re-train him. Is there something you are saving up for? Something for a hobby maybe, paint brushes if you are a painter or a pretty plant pot for the garden? Every time he wants to do a nice thing he can contribute a pound to you collection.
It's funny but when my cat was poorly, the vet asked me if I fed her treats! I was indignant and snapped 'I don't use food as a treat!' The poor vet looked at me as if I was taking it all far too seriously. I felt a bit silly after that, but anyway Be like the cat and stay off the Dreamies! 😊
If your meal looks good you are more likely to want to eat it
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Do you feel fobbed off by your doctor when you go to him with a weight issue. 
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