Dear new friends in H .
I am Maduka and I am mother of three children age 9,7,3 . I am originally from Sri Lanka and living in Leicestershire .
I have put on 40kg over last 9 years and it start to getting worse over 2 years.
I am really upset about my look and I look so ugly now. I want to lose my weight and be positive .
I am in really stress of my look and my weight so please support for me to lose my weight.
Xxxxx
Maduka
Maduka you've made a start to a new you, today , by joining. Its a very helpful and supportive group. Its so easy to loose control with eating. Draw a line under it and look forward.
Hello maduka Im so sorry you are feeling this way but please dint be upset just think positive and if you want to lose weight then you have to make some serious changes.
Eat well and do exercise.
Hi Maduka
Try not to be so hard on yourself and remember it will take time but you can do this. The forum is a very friendly and support place to lose weight so you will gets lots of help along your weight loss journey. The key is to be active on the forum, always do a daily plan and join one of the weigh ins for that extra support.
Have a great first week. 
Welcome to this wonderful forum Maduka . You have taken the first step to a Healthy New you. Wishing you well on your weight loss journey.😊
Welcome Maduka and wishing you all the best in your weight loss journey
Lots of support here Maduka. Sorry you feel so upset but you can get back to feeling like your old self. You must be busy raising 3 children. If you can plan your meals it will help, lots of ideas here everyday. Good luck ☺
I have the same genetic background as you, so don't forget: we're designed to be thin! Unfortunately, as you get older, it gets harder .. especially for women. But it's not impossible.
Do you cook? I mean, do you cook traditional food from 'back home'? If so, I'm afraid the first thing you'll have to do is lose the rice, breads and sweet stuff, which is awkward, because most Sri Lankan food really needs the rice, especially if you add the standard quantity of chili! I would suggest focusing on dishes that are more dry and don't need rice to mop up a load of sauce. Basically, meat and vegetables. Daals are OK but try not to eat too much.
Feeling unhappy is a good thing: it's going to motivate you to make changes. If you were content to remain overweight, you'd be condemned to your situation forever. However, dissatisfaciton with life has two radically different outcomes depending on your viewpoint:
"I'm doing everything right, why am I still fat? I have no control over this." - outcome: learned helplessness, self-loathing, and depression
"I can fix this. I got myself into this and I can get myself out of it." - outcome: determination and success.
Good tips there IvanTheHorrible
Hi Maduka, I put weight on when my children were small but, to my regret, I didn’t do anything about it. You are doing the right thing by starting to fix things now. You will not only be helping yourself but your children will benefit too. Good luck on your first week. X
Thank a lot...
Welcome Maduka.
You have made the first step. Have you checked out the Newbie club it gives you all the information to get started. I started my journey last October and have not looked back. We will be here every step of the way, so please don't feel on your own.
Good luck!
Help!!! I need adviceS!!
Motivational Help!! 
Help! I am feeling like I have failed :(
