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[Gem198732]

I been trying to lose weight and I just can’t stick to a diet and I weigh 106.1kg and I really wanna lose weight I hate the way I look and I need some support if anyone could tell me how I can stick to it thankyou in advance

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Hi and welcome, Gem198732

Rather than a diet, try to think in terms of a healthy and sustainable lifestyle.

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[Lauratb 4lbs]

I'm only on week 2 so not an expert but the only way I can do it is planning my food the day before!

[Pineapple27]

Hi and welcome Gem198732 If you want this to work for the longer term, you need to think about it as a lifestyle change rather than a diet. That lifestyle change will need to happen a bit at a time and will involve many things : changing your behaviour around food, portion control, emotional eating triggers, increasing your activity levels, trying new foods, making healthy food swaps, etc.

Commitment to diet/lifestyle change and resistance to temptation doesn't just happen! It has to be worked at.

The only way I have succeeded this time is to change how I approach food and eating it. I have learned to resist temptation! BUT please believe that this has taken a LOT of hard work and practice.

It's about "normalising" or "modifying" behaviour around food... and I think that with enough "practice" it becomes more and more easy until you get to the point where a behaviour is modified to the point of it becoming the only way.

I am sure that even some people who are not over weight do sometimes over indulge - but the fact is they don't do it very often...

Those of us who are over weight have been used to "treating" ourselves, eating portions that are too large, eating the things that we know are calorific because we can!

It's been a combination of changing all of those aspects of how I behave around food that has meant I have been successful this time.

I have developed a respect for the food I eat. Not everyone has the ability to eat as well as we in the western world eat. We should not abuse the privilege.

I rarely eat "on the hoof" any more, I rarely eat between meals. I take time to sit at a table and present my meals nicely. I take a moment or two to really look at my plate of food before I pick up my knife and fork.

Almost daily I say to hubbie "Aren't we lucky to be able to enjoy such lovely food". I really mean that too, I am not saying it for anyones benefit but his and mine. We should never take for granted having easy access to delicious food stuffs and our ability and love of cooking!

If you log your food - keep track of how many calories some of those "treats" contain, after a while they kind of stay in your head (medium egg = 70 cals, slice of white bread 100 cals, meringue nest 57 cals, 30g (matchbox size) of cheddar, 122 cals)

I do have sweet treats, but I buy my own choice, so things like 2 finger Kitkat, single finger Twix, Club biscuit... these are all around 100 calories. I keep them in a tin and I can have one whenever I want to, but I limit it to no more than one a day and usually with my afternoon cup of tea. That's not to say I eat one on a daily basis (usually about 2-3 times a week). They are always logged into my diary.

If you don't keep a log of what you are eating and the calories foods contain, then it's a bit like trying to travel from one place to another without a map! You might get there eventually BUT it's likely to take you much longer than if you planned the route and used a map PLUS you might take a few wrong turnings and end up going back on yourself!

I have also learned not to plan each trip out of the house to include food. Once upon a time, I'd have included lunch with a trip into town, coffee and cake with a visit to the garden centre.

I now plan or even prepare a meal BEFORE I go out (usually a salad) so that I know exactly what I can eat as soon as I walk into the door... and don't turn to "what I fancy" (usually high calorie carbs that don't keep you full for very long...)

Make a list of the reasons WHY you want to lose weight. Keep it somewhere safe (stuck to the inside of a kitchen cupboard door?) and look at it from time to time, especially when you are raiding the kitchen for treats!

I always ask myself before eating something really calorific "Do I really want to eat this thing more than I want to lose weight this week?". It's called "mindful eating" - being aware of why you are considering eating - real hunger? Boredom? Temptation? Feeling fed up?

Have a glass of water, wait 5 minutes and consider whether you still want the food. Once it's been snaffled down, it's too late and you may end up feeling cross and angry with yourself....

....and that feeling (guilt, failure) lasts for a long time, much longer than the temporary enjoyment of whatever treat you ate....

Oh, and I always remind myself how good the feeling is of seeing a loss on the scales at my weekly weigh in! That wonderful feeling lasts for days! Don't forget how that feels - you need to remind yourself of that feeling next time temptation strikes!

I’m healthier and fitter now at the age of 56 than I was 20 years ago…..

I am writing this as someone who had struggled all of my life (since the age of 9) to lose weight. I have a significant disability that affects my mobility - use a wheelchair outside of the house. I am also very short (4ft 8”). It wasn't until the age of 49 when I started to log everything and kept track of the calories I was consuming that the truth hit me between the eyes. I was eating FAR TOO MUCH for a short sedentary person. I changed my whole approach to food and eating it that everything else clicked into place

Just wished I’d found what worked for me years ago.

[Vellerium]

Your beautiful.

youtube.com/watch?v=la0-5QF...(Not working as expected?)

Girl, listen. don’t bother what other people think of you. Do not look at yourself head down, look at yourself in the mirror also, forget about doing running or jogging, listen to me carefully..

Do swimming. I used to be chubby before christmas, I don't diet, yes eating healthy helps, eat some fruit and veg now and again, add a bit of it into your daily meals it's not that hard. But, you don't need to stick to a full blown diet, that is what the media is drilling into your head, and it honestly feels like you have been brainwashed by the media.

No I do not have no 6 pack, I do gym for 1 hour 2 times a week and I do swimming 2 times a week for 2 and a half hours.

Gym, is only a side benefit, most of my weight loss has came from swimming, like I said you do not even need a diet. Just make sure you eat in portion sizes, you do not even have to work really hard in swimming, just go at your own pace, and I bet you will see results in the mirror and on the scale.

You can eat what ever you want, just don't over do it. Like I said, portion control. Plus, do not have second meals. And, when you are having your main meal or anything big you eat in the day, always have a glass of water, sometimes, our body mistakes dehydration for hunger, so our body gives us the same feeling as if we was hungry. Water helps you tell your body when it's full, so you do not eat too much.

One more tip as well when eating food, you must stop eating when you do not feel hungry.

DO NOT MISTAKE THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE FULL TO THE FEELING THAT YOU ARE NOT HUNGRY. THEY ARE BOTH VERY DIFFERENT

Not feeling hungry, is when you feel like if you were to stop eating, you would not feel hungry no longer. Feeling full is when you can not physically eat anymore, because you have ate too much and your belly is about to explode xd.

Also, when it comes to weighing, forget weighing at evening or bed. Make sure to WEIGHT YOURSELF IN THE MORNING because, our weight in the morning is our real original body weight. If you weigh yourself in the evening your likely to be weighing everything in your digestive system and what you have recently just ate, yet alone all of the water or juice you have also drank.

So yeah, just go swimming and you will see results and like i said you do not even have to do much just keep portion control and stop eating when you are no longer hungry (not full)

Lastly, make sure to stay true to yourself. No matter how big you are, or how much you weight.. there is always someone in the world very larger than you. To make you feel better, watch 600lb life. I bet you will not feel fat then.

Btw, you are not fat, you are beautiful.. Oh and don't worry about what people think about you. Do this for yourself. Your in it to win it but, do not get to the point where you are depressed do not let weight loss bother you this much, it's not a nice feeling. You are a lovely person, and if people do not see you for what you are inside, then that's their problem. Peace out.

[Xuski]

Just think how good you are going to feel thiner, how easy it will be to move around, how well you are gonna see yourself and how proud you’ll feel for starting to be healthy, that should be enough motivation! Go for it, you will feel fantastic and it will get easier

[Hidden]

Welcome! You’ve come to the right place for support and encouragement! Lots of things to get involved in, lots of ‘virtual’ diet buddies - none of us are saints (diet-wise anyway) and we don’t do name and shame! It’s a long term process - I’m in my second year and now maintaining but slow and steady is much better than fast and furious!

Good luck!

[PandQs Maintainer 3st 7lbs]

Hi Gem, take inspiration from Pineapples reply to you - she has had more difficulty than most of us and has managed to lose the weight. Also take heart from knowing that if you know WHY the weight is accumulating and you have difficulty sticking to a diet, you will realise what you can do to fix it. Watch two videos - The Skinny on Obesity episodes 3 and 4. Good luck! There is no magic formula, you need to make the choice yourself to change, become healthy on the inside and the weight loss will happen.

[Craftyperson]

Don't think of it has a diet but weight management and don't think about the whole amount you want to loose as seems too daunting but cut it into small manageble chunks. And good luck