Difficult

[Tree-hugger]

I know it’s only myself to blame but I’m finding it difficult to get motivated to diet. I’m getting bigger and just can’t seem get my act together! Any advice? It’s making me really depressed and have no self confidence. I had a date the first for such along time, feeling uncomfortable and he sorted of gave my the brush off l felt unattractive, overweight and useless.

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I understand how you feel. I'm sorry you feel bad. Before I started losing weight I was miserable and felt disgusting. I've lost eighteen pounds so far and even though I'm still overweight just having control and exercising has given me more self confidence. Once you start losing your outlook will change. Just give it a week or two, give it your all and you'll see it happen and want to keep going. If you don't already exercise, try walking. It clears your mind, can lower stress and make you smile. Good luck!!

[Honey10 1lb]

I am sorry to hear this, it can be extremely difficult to motivate yourself when depressed. My advice from someone who suffered with depression would be to sort out yourself mental health first, maybe some talking therapy or join support group or mind the charity. Then when you feel in control of your life, healthy eating will fall into place. Be kind to yourself, please get some support for your depression. Thinking of you .

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Hi and welcome back to the forum Tree-hugger things have changed since you were last here therefore

I would like to invite you to join our Newbie Club, which we hope will be a good place for you to connect with members, who are also just starting out, or re-starting. You will get loads of support from us all on here

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[Tiggerr]

Some good advice from the others Tree-hugger

After I started out here, I changed my outlook from one of 'dieting' to one of 'healthy living'. It's not so much about losing weight but about living in such a way in that you are caring for yourself and that will provide you with the tools to manage your life, long after you have reached your weight goal.

[Villageduckpond in reply to Tiggerr]

Well said Tiggerr and good morning to youhoo

[Tiggerr in reply to Villageduckpond]

Morning Vdp

[Villageduckpond in reply to Tiggerr]

'moaning ....

[BridgeGirl Administrator 2 stone]

Hello Tree-hugger, I was going to say something similar to Tiggerr. Why not drop the word "dieting" from your vocabulary and think about eating? I'm not far ahead of you (5 weeks into this) but I am enjoying my food and even (sort of!) enjoying learning about calories as it puts me in charge.

I'm not on the dating scene but I do care about what I look like, and I can see how my clothes choices have become duller and plainer over the years as the pounds have crept on, and stayed on.

Be kind to yourself, take a step at a time (I know that sounds simplistic, but it's realistic) and ask for all the support and encouragement you want on here

[Karen1969]

I could do with ideas of what to eat ino what I need to stay away from ... thanks for the advice

[Wadestreet]

First welcome. Second of all it is his loss not yours. So do not give him another thought. We are a great bunch of people that can help you along the way. Start by eating healthier and pick a exercise routine that you can you can stick to and gradually that you can build on it. Third walk with your head held high and shoulders back like you own the world which you do and do not quit. Onward and upward. Best wishes on your journey!!