my 1st day

[smudgersmith]

hello ,

this is the start of my healthy eating plan and it has already been tested today.l had to pop back into work for some supervision and had my buttons pressed by my manager!!! my normal reaction would be to go and eat the fridge because l was angry,hurt and embaressed by what we discussed but l didn't.l was very angry inside but managed to remain relatively calm and explain myself[they want me to work more weekends for no extra money or incentives and l feel intimated into doing it.l have a lovely partner and l want to spend more time with him not less].

My food would always calm me down and relax me,numb me,push down the emotions that l don't think l even know how to cope with?? l can get angry,very angry but l have been unable to react positively to being and feeling like lm being taken advantage of.l just get angry at things and eat eat eat.

l think l need to manage my anger better x

[shogg]

one test passed then so now you know you can keep doing it get a punch bag and take your anger out on that

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Oh dear smudgersmith,

Have a look at this and see if it helps

skillsyouneed.com/ps/assert...

Well done for not resorting to food though, it shows you've already started to change your mind set

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

l am such an angry monster!!!! The information is really good thank you x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Not at all, you just need to learn the skills required to deal with people that are taking advantage of you.

All the best

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

thank you,deep breathes xx

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Perfect, you'll soon get the hang of it

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

l do hope so.l have trouble retaining information.l'm very very mildly undiagnosed l think dyslexic[why is this word so hard to spell].Or lve just learnt to cope with food when anger starts and can't see the wood for the trees x

l'm voting for B.

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Get your partner to read it to you and highlight the main points, then learn them parrot fashion.

The next time something triggers a food attack, take a deep breath and start rattling them off in your mind. Even if you don't act upon them, they may have the affect of diverting your attention away from food

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

hey l never thought of that!! he has a lovely voice as well x

[smudgersmith]

Anybody can become angry - that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is not easy. - Aristotle and smudgersmith[well l did cut and paste it and l want a bit of credit for that] x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Go to the top of the class!

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

thanks miss x

l love love love the picture on your entrance page[they all have my body]x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Lucky you! I'm working hard to get down to a body like that

[smudgersmith]

your funny x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

Is that your polite way of saying I'm soft in the head?

[smudgersmith]

no!! l love your humour x lve learnt to see the funny side to stuff and your photo tickles me thank you x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

My pleasure You should see me at my best/worst, when Lucca and I get together, it can get quite silly at times

[smudgersmith in reply to moreless]

l love laughter,jokes and comedians x

[moreless Administrator 7 stone in reply to smudgersmith]

In that case, I'm here to be adulated

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I am sorry your manager was rubbish to you. Well done for surviving day one. You can do this.