please help me - Im falling ....

[libbydaniels88]

So sang some handsome young chap many years ago. Unfortunately, unlike him, im not falling in love with someone, rather, im falling out of love for myself, and off my diet completely.I know I have to lose some weight, but - its complacency week for me..lost 2 lbs...ah shucks!' that's great I tell myself. .it ISNT great - its a very small step on a very long path...

Im scrabbling so hard here to get back on that wagon, you might be able to hear the scratch of my fingernails on the backboard from here..

Wish me luck, but don't congratulate me on my 2 lbs. I need a good kick up the bum

[moreless Administrator 7 stone]

Hi Libby,

You're so wrong, if you don't celebrate each and every achievement on your weight loss journey, you will never consider yourself worthy and will therefore never love yourself.

I realise now, that I've done exactly the same to myself over the years and I've never loved myself, whatever size I've been.

Let me help you, I love you, I think you're worthy and I think that a 2lb weight loss is absolutely fabulous!

Be kind to yourself, you deserve it

[Gonti 10 kg]

Hi LibbyDaniels88 quick reminder of what you already know, it is completely normal to go through various mood swings, complacency, temptations, exceptions, excuses, diversions, "it doesn't count" moments. If it hasn't gone well the last few days then pick yourself up as soon as you can, have an apple, do some stretches, .. move on.

If you are just sweating it out right now try something, anything that keeps you away from the food and your hands busy for an hour....😏

Meanwhile how is your physiotherapy going. I would love to know? (I have a busted knee).

Have fun today😀

[libbydaniels88 in reply to Gonti]

Hi and thank you - yes I am picking myself up for the next hour, and after that - maybe another hour. My ex husband was an alcoholic ( he was also a lovely man who hadn't drank for 13 years, it was other things that went wrong) - but i remember his AA teachings said that if you can't manage a dry life, try a dry day, or a dry hour .... And see how you get on from there...im trying that idea. Surely I can eat sensibly for ONE hour ??

Thanks for asking about my physio. Sadly its not doing so well. I've been to a private osteopath twice abd another appointment next Weds. She's advised me to request an MRI to see if there is any underlying cause and im seeing dr on Friday about one.

Do you know ive never had such a year of hospitals. Talk about Annus Horibilus" ..feb broke wrist, then dentist said you have a retained wisdom root, maxillofacial unit for surgical removal, now this...

And im normally so fit ! - but not normally so fat perhaps...thanks again for your support and I hope your knee gets sorted soon. You say busted, is it broken or what ? You have my sympathy x

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Hi, Sorry to hear that you are not loving yourself at the moment. When I feel like that I listen to "Don't be so hard on yourself" by Jessie Glynn.

"Let's go back to simplicity

I feel like I've been missing me

Was not who I'm supposed to be

I felt this darkness over me

We all get there eventually"

"Don't be so hard on yourself, no

Learn to forgive, learn to let go

Everyone trips, everyone falls

So don't be so hard on yourself, "

This is a great community and will support you. I used to hate myself, but found little bits that I liked about myself. Don't like the weight I have gained since I got married and trying to get rid of it now. (Getting divorced is not good for weight loss, but I am determined to do it.)

I found focusing on other things helps a little with how I feel about myself. At first I couldn't think of anything, but I started thinking about the things I did well. Now I am working the things I like about me and my body. I'm working on mindfulness and doing a free course available though future learn.com to help as well. It's run by a university and I am finding it helpful.

Main thing is to remember that we all have down days (in my case months) but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and sometimes you might feel like you are getting nowhere but you are. I haven't lost any weight in the past 2 weeks, but I am still going for it. As well as working on my self-esteem.

Take care and I hope these words help.

20Voices.

[Nsky24]

So just do what you need to do! Fix, sort, portion and plan, sorted!

[Dody18]

Don't beat yourself up, we have all done it, draw a line under it and get back on that wagon, and have your nails done too. Good luck.

[Tinytears2000]

If you lost 2lb every week that would be 104lbs a year. My school maths teacher would be deleted I worked this out all my myself 😛

[Portlandprincess]

Hey Libby, in seven days time you will have shed another.....this bit is for you to decide.........pounds.

I know you know this but put two pounds of lard on a dish and take a look at it and then...celebrate ...you're on your way..all journeys start with the first step...Go Libby!