This will be my third post here, as I've commented on other's post. But I felt that I needed to start a post dealing specifically with "PERSONALITY CHANGE" and what it's done to us. Us is my husband and I.
Hello everyone, I'm a wife here about my husband. When we married 10 years ago we were the very best of friends. Our first 4 years were like an extended honeymoon that would not end, truly. HE was my best friend. Now, I'm trying to be his. Because of what the Endocrinologist has done to him, our HAPPY marriage is OVER!
Before my husband was treated with Radio Iodine at the age of 54, he was diagnosed with Hyperthyroidism. Having most of the symptoms and especially heart palpitations, anxiety, hair thinning, feeling weak, tired, listless and not sleeping well at night. He was sent to an Endocrinologist and at first they prescribed him carbimazole. OH - MY - GOODNESS! It was incredible! He was SOOOO HAPPY! No more heart palpitations, no more listlessness and he was all over me, loving me, playing jokes on me, acting like a bad and gorgeous little boy. He was a really good guy before this, but down at times, tired and fretting about his heart. But after that prescription it was like he fell in love with me all over again. This man IS my soulmate - he felt the same about me.
Today... we are separated. You see, they called him BACK IN - and did some test on his thyroid gland for tumor or cancer. He tested negative, NO such thing. He explained how great he felt on the carbimazole. YET - they talked him into coming in and allowing them to do a Radio Iodine treatment. When he told me about this, I wasn't sure why they felt he needed this? I mean, he was feeling great on the carbimazole - so why mess with it. Because my husband feels self-conscience about me being on his doctors appointments, I never got to sit and hear the things they were telling him. Anyway, they some how talked him into this procedure against my better judgement. I said to him, "I don't know about this, I mean, you need your thyroid, I'm sure God didn't make it for you just to decorate the throat? Can't you get a second opinion?" Being on NHS - he didn't feel that he could.
Trusting THEM - these specialist, he went in for the procedure. As he was passed the Lead boxed POISON - he was told, that he would be on Hormone replacement for the rest of his life, but they would be able to control it better. Blah blah blah... he popped the pill.
Almost 2-1/2 years went by, NO HORMONE REPLACEMENT GIVEN!!!! He had to BEG his GP to give him something because he felt awful! He was then prescribed Levothyrodoxine 25mcg - that's it! They took a TSH test and told him he was NORMAL!!!!!!!!!
My husband, my wonderful DREAM COME TRUE SOULMATE - began to change gradually. At the beginning of his changing, I didn't relate it to the procedure because I wasn't familiar with what it meant to have your thyroid killed. He became this short impatient, snappish, irritated, easily roused to anger, argumentative over trivial things, accusatory, bringing up old matters long over. Hitting below the belt in arguments. Depression, anxiety, easy to cry, emotional, cold, bitter and even worse, accusing me of not loving him, not respecting him.
Through it all, he's gotten more and more cold towards me. Accusing me of things I've not done. And basically acts as if he hates me. Two weeks ago we had a fight that lasted 4 straight days. It was a nightmare.
I left distraught, devastated and I still can't stop crying. Living with my step-daughter for the time being, the more we talked the more I realized all of these changes and behaviour came AFTER the thyroid procedure. We went and started googling! BAM - and found the source of what's happened to my husband. Now, I'm DOUBLE devastated! All this time I thought I'd been fooled, duped and didn't really know him, when in truth... THEY - his Endocrinologist DESTROYED my husband!
5 years after the procedure - he's REALLY REALLY BAD! Paranoia, suspicious, non-stop arguing, will not hear ANYTHING I try to tell him, including that it is his Thyroid being removed that has done this to him. He's now diabetic and was not before. He has high-blood pressure and didn't before. He's having weight gain problems and didn't have them before. His skin is DRY and flaking alot - little dry flecks of skin are always peppering his t-shirt. The heals of his feet are HARD with DEEP cracks, wasn't that way before. He CANNOT sleep at night, and has gone 26 hours up until he finally came to bed for sleep. He has to drink to get any sleep, so does it excessively. The muscle mass he once had is wasting away.
I'm begging, begging PLEASE... is it TOO LATE, to help my husband? I mean, 5 years now - his memory is also bad, there are so many symptoms now - and he is COLD. PLEASE... someone how can I help him?
One thing I have sought, is an attorney to see if I can bring charges against his Endocrine for negligence!
I've begged his GP, the Practice Manager and NHS for immediate HELP for him. His GP has set up a blood test appointment, but I explained that this is urgent, the BLOOD test is not until 30/10/2013 he NEEDS help NOW!