Tearful/Sadness/Doom before going to the bathroom

[iOwlface]

Hi everyone - just a quick one today which I may have already asked before. I’m just wondering if y’all get tearful/sad/sense of doom before a flare?

Some days I’ll just get hit by a wave of either tears or incredible sadness and not be able to put my finger on why, then shortly after I usually have an unpleasant trip to the bathroom.

I know there’s a strong connection between the gut and the brain, but I feel like I need someone to say they relate to this so I can refer back to it when I’m losing my mind over my symptoms again.

Thanks in advance

[Misspomfrey]

Yes, Definitely, I'm the same. I get a sense of doom and depression and I get feared of dying and at my age, I know it will be sooner rather than later 😭 I enjoy life when I'm feeling well, but then when this depression hits, I just can't shake it off no matter how hard I try. Then it's a couple of days feeling tired, no energy, don't sleep, on and off the toilet, no appetite, then once it's over, the depression lifts as if it's never been there.

I think it's a common thing with IBS and I'm sure a lot of people feel the same. It's a case of remembering that it will pass and there will be better days soon. Make the most of the good days.

[JNM1234 in reply to Misspomfrey]

Not me. My gut and stools go south and my emotions follow. When my stools and guts are good, I'm the happiest woman on earth. Yes, emotions and gut are connected. But only to a degree. I am much happier when my gut is good than when my gut is bad. Usually the bad bathroom day ruins my mood.

[hatemyguts in reply to JNM1234]

You said ‘not me’ but then described the same symptoms as OP.

[TedsMum247 in reply to hatemyguts]

I think the OP mentioned feelings "before" going to the loo, JNM1234 has the problems "after", so that's different.

[JNM1234 in reply to TedsMum247]

Yes, you correctly state the situation. My mood follows my gut condition.

[TedsMum247 in reply to JNM1234]

I can relate to you, I feel awful after a flare-up of IBSD. I can start off with a normal loo visit, then feel I need to go back again and again and again. Each trip to the loo gets more urgent until it's full blown diahorrea. After four trips I end up feeling tired and just want to go back to bed. It can take me a few hours to get back to feeling normal. Recently I've been wakening up and dreading going to the loo. Like you a bad bathroom start to the morning effects me badly, so much so I'm dreading family and grandchildren coming to stay next week.

[Roomygirl2 in reply to Misspomfrey]

It definitely has given me a sense of being greatful for the small things in life and not take things for granted

[Roomygirl2]

you are not alone my friend.

[Moggiedee]

I so agree with everything you have said. I can wake up in the morning with no pain or problem at all but still have that feeling of doom & gloom & I can guarantee that it wont be long before I am having a nasty episode in the toilet. I had a day like that yesterday. Thankfully I had no visitors so spent the day on sofa with a hot water bottle ( my saviour on bad days). I tell myself it will pass & I've been here before & lived to tell the tale.

[Nanabud8]

Im so grateful you posted this!! I have been having those feelings on and off and thought i was going nuts, your post and all the replies have now confirmed it is all part of our IBS journey. While i sincerely empathise with you, i am comforted to know im not alone in this and can accept it from now on when it attacks. 😀

[OrchidKoi15]

I notice a huge correlation between mental illness and colon. Especially at night. If my stomach has any symptoms I wont sleep even with all the meds I'm on. When I'm flared I isolate. I get really irritable

[hatemyguts in reply to OrchidKoi15]

I get terribly irritable when my IBS is flaring up. I also get that feeling of dread. I go to the toilet and instead of that feeling of relief I get a cramp which I think is because I'm not emptying fully. My IBS flares up the worst during time of the month too. The amount of times I've wished I could have a new digestive system!

[Sylona]

Yes it's not been as bad lately but I I get cold, anxious doomy thoughts then within minutes have to use bathroom. I've also been checking blood sugar and noticed sometimes it will be low or dropping when this happens (reactive hypoglycemia) I was also told blood pressure can drop during bowel movement so all these things happening at once can have you feeling terrible.

[buggins55]

Oh gosh I so agree with with all these comments to the T, I too get that sense of anxiety fear depression (doom is a good word as well) just before a flare up, can be fine and then suddenly down and my energy goes out the door when I'm well I'm happy and have energy to do things and this seesaw can change by the hour!!

[Luisa22]

I can totally relate to your experiences. I get similar if I have a bad gut day. I just try to use anything that's meaningful to me as an anchor, even though it's hard to really feel them at the time. I know by experience these moods pass and probably why they occur (perhaps some disturbance in Serotonin?)

I use any comforts to guide me through and know it always goes away (until another time, but try not to think about that.)

I think the problem is we have no control over it and cannot analyse why!

But I always find that if I have eaten foods that definitely agree with me, there is less chance of those horrible things.

Then...irrationally...those things won't happen again for ages.

Sheer tiredness (perhaps being wakened too early by an uncomfortable gut?), and frustration and feeling downhearted about IBS all seem to come together to make me cry too sometimes.

But the next day is often OK, or there aren't too many days until it goes away, so I just live in hope and carry on.