BLOATING

[lYNNETT]

CAN ANYONE TELL ME WHAT WILL CAUSE YOU TO BLOAT UP AND STAY BLOATED THE REST OF THE DAY? I GOT UP THIS MORNING FEELING GOOD AND REALLY NO WORRIES ABOUT STOMACH. BY 11:00 I BECAME BLOATED AND STILL SUFFER FROM IT. I HAVE BEEN EATING GOOD AND SLOWED DOWN ON THE WORRYING. THAT IS A ACCOMPLISHMENT FOR ME! MY GASTRO DOES NOT SEEM TOO WORRIED ABOUT THIS TO ME. SOMETIMES I DO NOT PASS GAS. YOU KNOW I READ A LOT OF POST AND MY HEART GOES OUT TO EACH AND EVERYONE WHO SUFFER FROM IBS. I SUFFER FROM IBS- C. BUT THAT HAS BEEN GOING PRETTY GOOD I FEEL, HERE LATELY. I GUESS IT WAS WAITING FOR ME TO BE AT PEACE FINALLY?

[jennifer1983]

Hi Iynnett,

A few years back I felt bloated everyday when I woke up for over 6 months. I was so worried that I had something seriously wrong with me. I went to many different doctors looking for the reason why I felt so bloated, one doctor said I had IBS, another doctor checked me out for ovarian cancer, I had ultra sounds many of them, I had a colonoscopy all while being in such fear that I couldn't cope. Than one doctor said I was obsessed and had such anxiety that he recommend I try an antidepressant .I thought that was the stupidest thing I ever heard taking an antidepressant for being bloated. I was very reluctant to taking an antidepressant for feeling bloated in fact I thought it was ridiculous . Months past with me feeling bloated everyday. I thought for sure I had something seriously wrong with me that these doctors were just not finding after going to the 5th doctor who looked at all these test that I had taken and sat down with me and said that I had every test repeated over and over again looking for cancer and I should seek out a psychiatrist I went back home and tried the antidepressant within a month I woke up feeling no anxiety and my bloat was gone and I have never had it again. I am not saying this could be you, but just wanted to share my story with the months I had with being so bloated. Sometimes fear can make every thing feel so much worse. I wish you the best , and try not to worry it really does make the situation worse.

[janetmtt in reply to jennifer1983]

I think if you are stressed that does effect the cortisol levels in the body and that can effect the bloat - interesting you say that about the antidepressants though - but I do wonder will they not cause general weight gain after a while - my partner is on them at the moment and his weight is creeping up. However I am very badly bloated at the moment and tried to think back when my bloat was less and that was when I was happy and in a good place. At the moment I am stressed out my mind because of nasty comments made by my partners mum and brother telling me I am "not normal, I've never been normal and never ate like a normal person" I've had comments made about my eating before but to be called "abnormal" has caused me so much upset and stress and anger that I am booked to see a hypnotherapist next week. I've had 22 years of having every piece of food I eat, don't eat, or drink monitored by these two and enough is enough - I've took them out of my life and will refuse to ever see them again but I have been so down and depressed the last two weeks. It's bad enough we have IBS and having to watch what we eat or can't eat without people making horrible comments - our lives are bad enough - but again people just do not understand. I am so angry with these two and I have to get rid of it because it's eating away at me - and my bloat is so bad I look 9 months pregnant all the time - to say nothing about the pains I am also getting. People are so cruel and they have now added even more problems to my already bad body image and also nervous to now eat in front of other people in case I get similar problems. Felt I had to share this because no doubt I am not the only person have nasty comments made about eating etc.

[jennifer1983 in reply to janetmtt]

Hello Jaretmtt,

I am so sorry to hear about your parters mom being so insensitive and cruel towards you, that horrible in my opinion I believe that is contributing to you feeling so bloated. Many years ago my mother in law was also cruel to me, it was a constant barrage of nasty comments, especially in front of people to make herself feel above me. What made it worse is that my husband never defended me, he allowed his mother to insult me without saying a word which sent her a message that she could get away with it. I finally had enough and wrote her a letter letting her know that I will no longer tolerate her nasty and cruel behavior and that I was not her doormat for her to step all over and I told her that her comments were cruel and unprovoked and I said if this continues I will never step foot in her house again. She called me after receiving my letter and she did stop for a while and after a few months she started in again, and I called her out each and every time on her bad behavior and with that I taught my son which at the time was young but as he grew into a man never to except bad behavior from anyone and it has served him well in school and now in the work force. Many years as past and my mother in law has past away but prior to her passing she was sick and went into a nursing home and all the people she treated so nice put her in there and I told her again while she was sick how horribly she treated me over the years and if she had treated me kindly I would have taken care of her and she would have been with me in my home and not stuck her in a nursing home and I told her she was kind to the wrong people and her being in the nursing home was the price she paid for treating me like crap. So the moral of my story is your partners mom will get her's someday for her cruel behavior, but in the mean time I would try writing her a letter or confronting her on how horrible she is treating you and tell her if it continues you will not be stepping foot in her home and just maybe it will chance things. Let her know how her cruelty is affecting you and for your own self preservation you cannot continue seeing her cause it's bad for your health. I feel she needs to know how you feel and how her nasty comments are making you physically ill.

Also , I have NOT grained any weight on my antidepressant in fact it helped me lose weight cause I felt so much better which allowed me eat better because I am a stress eater. If you are a female have the doctor check your uterus to make sure you do not have any problems there cause that can make you feel very bloated. I just wanted to give you a little food for thought and maybe perhaps you can mention your situation to your doctor and just maybe taking an antidepressant may be a great help in every way. . Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.

[janetmtt in reply to jennifer1983]

Thanks for that - my partner is supportive in this but does feel he has a duty to look out for her as her husband passed away in January - two siblings live away so it falls on him. He agrees that she has a vicious tongue and calls everyone nasty names behind their backs yet I am the only person she does it to her face. I told my partner had my mum not brought me up correct to treat and respect older people and good manners she'd have had a mouthful years ago - she never thought I was good enough because I came from a Council Estate but I am proud of where I came from and my parents did me good and proper and brought me up correct. My partner told her I would never come down again to her house nor do I want to see her or his brother again - she is the loser because now she won't get an invite to our wedding - I have got hypnotherapy booked because I need to get rid of the anger but two people have told me I am not the one with the problem - she is - she has the problem and so must the brother (he is a little man and I think that could be at the bottom of his nasty comments as he was always trying to keep up with his brother - my partner - but never quite made it). Last year she said to me "would have thought you would have got more dress sense since you turned 60" "why don't you go to my hairdresser, she does old fashioned styles" are just two of the comments I've had the last few months off her - tip of the iceberg - well from now on I won't ever see her again and hope that I can get her totally out of my system with the hypnotherapy.

My stomach today is so bloated - it's horrible but I am so glad that the antidepressants are working good for you on the bloat - have they reduced it a lot and also that you have lost weight - which ones are you taking

[jennifer1983 in reply to janetmtt]

Dear Janetmtt,

Your partner's mother doesn't deserve respect I don't care how old she is. She speaks to you like crap. She is just a cruel wicked old women who is NOT deserving of respect of any kind and how you feel you need to respect that cause she's an elder I just can't understand.. In all due respect, you are very misguided. Respect is a two way street it doesn't matter how old a person is and who's mother she is.. Why do you feel you have to tolerate her ugliness and cruelty in order to give her respect just because she's an elder ? That's BULL !! You can stand up for yourself without being disrespectful by explaining how her behavior effects your health and that you deserve to be treated with kindness and for her to stop looking down her nose at you because of where you came from and to keep her nasty comments to herself. That's not disrespect. That would be self respect.. I believe you would feel a whole lot better if you got all that off your chest. Holding in anger can make a person sick. Believe me when I tell you I have been in your shoes and the more I allowed my mother in law to beat me up verbally and belittle me the more she treated me like dirt because she was never confronted by anyone, they all saw how she treated me and no-one said anything to her. My mother in law treated me so badly that it effected every aspect of my life. I walked around feeling less than and beneath everyone. Her verbal abuse had me feeling worthless. I felt so beaten down that I could not continue allowing her to get away with treating me so horribly. I was a broken person because of her. I just couldn't take anymore..I was sick and depressed from her abuse. I knew that I had to write her a letter for her to better understand that she was making me sick and I deserved better cause I was a good person and was deserving of respect and kindness and if she did not keep herself in check that she better be ready to be confronted or else for my own self presavation I could not bring myself to enter her home again. After that letter I felt a huge weight lift off me. I took back the power that I gave her to hurt me. when a person has the power to make you feel sick and unworthy of kindness you are handing them over the power to hurt you. I got to a place where I refused to give her the power to hurt me ever again. when I told her that her nasty comments and her disrespect will no longer be tolerated by me. It was so liberating and I never tolerated her cruelty again. I truly wish you can get to that place and if you do you will feel lot better and no longer be burdened with anger. I truly wish you all the very best in your journey for peace, tranquility and self love.

[janetmtt in reply to jennifer1983]

I have removed her from my life now along with his brother - I will not ever have any contact with either of them and just wish I had answered her back all those years ago - so many people said to me they couldn't have kept their mouths shut and given her a mouthful but I also did it to save my partners feelings - however he does stand by me and he has told her that I won't ever go to her house again. She had a few tears (crocodile in my opinion and said she hadn't wanted to split the family which she has done mega time now ) and wanted to ring me but partner said don't you'll make it worse. So Christmas will be a problem because it puts my partner pig in the middle but he said he would go down early to see her and brother and his wife then come home - truth be known he doesn't want to go full stop but it is his mother! Her Christmas will still go on as usual but ours has been spoilt. Partners son has just split from his girlfriend and she messaged me yesterday to say thank you for welcoming her to the family and making her welcome - I've said the door is always open and the welcome is there - she done nothing to me so if in the area she is still welcome to come - however she said could I pass on thanks to all the family including "Granny" to say thank you - I am not going to pass on anything to this woman - partner didn't get the message and I have a feeling he will ask when she rings on Sunday as to what the message was again - well I am not going to repeat it again - nor will she be invited to my wedding early next year - that will kill her but she's made her bed she now has to lie on it and I feel nothing now - nothing but pity and hatred - hatred is a strong word but I really do not care - I hate her

[janetmtt in reply to janetmtt]

22 years of my life she has spoilt she's not spoiling any more - and I do so love your story about your MIL - and how she ended up in care - karma - I always say what goes around comes around - if anyone reading this post thinks I'm horrible - believe me 22 years of having everything monitored from food I eat, buy, clothes I wear, my home, how I do things "I wouldn't do it like that" - it's a relief to have her out of my life. Just wish I'd done the letter thing and got it all in there for her to see what a nasty piece of work she i

[Ivan1]

I went on gluton free diet last year. I've stuck to it and it has worked for me, plenty of gf food about now . Hope you get sorted

[shoppaholicsue]

Hi,

You could try ruling a food group out. Start with the most common like wheat or dairy and see if it makes a difference.

Sue