bone met pain or something else ?

[Maraki]

Hi group,

Please can someone please help me out? Anything!

Question about inner thigh pain. My mom started Doxil this June after new spots appeared with Xeloda after 1 full year.

This July she broke her vertebrae (t4) this was a spot where the cancer showed up and she had a fall in the meantime and it broke.

A couple weeks ago now her inner thigh started hurting but it only hurts her when she moves her leg or tries to walk on it. When she is sitting there’s no pain whatsoever.

We called the nurse and she sent my mom to the orthopedic ambulatory office and they took X rays where they ruled out metastasis on the femur.

The doctor ordered a bone scan for this Friday so I guess we will see then.

I guess what I’m asking is does anyone have a similar experience? I just don’t want it to be the Mets 😭I hate seeing my mom like this. One break in her back in July and now this?

I almost feel like it’s the end 😫😫😫

Thank you guys for reading and thank you for being so supportive.

[13plus]

Dear Maraki, your worry for your mum's condition is loud and clear, and I'm very sorry you have to see her go through this. It is never easy to watch. That said, I would not say this is the end for her, maybe think of it as a "bump" in the road (even if it is a very unwelcome one). It's pretty much the nature of the journey I'm afraid. There is no way for any or us to determine the source of her pain but a bone scan should hopefully give you more information. It is great that her femur appeared clear!

Please take some time to care for yourself too, and find some things to help you destress. I know that's easier said then done but you've got to keep yourself in the best frame of mind you can so you can have good energy for your time with your mum. There are online caregiver support groups which might be a great resource for you, so you can interact with others going through the same thing and not feel so alone in your situation. We all need support, and that's ok. Sending you a big virtual hug!

[PJBinMI]

Our mothers are such important peoplle in our lives! My own mother died from lung cancer nearly 40 years ago and I remember how stressful it was for me and my brother! So little we can do besides being there are loving them. I'm a long timer with MBC, over 19 years, and my memory isn't what it used to be but I am pretty sure that bone mets are much more common in the spine than in the femur. I hope the CT will show what your mother's pain is from and that both of you will worry less once you know what it is. Living in aging bodies is not fun, that's for sure. Give your mother a gentle hug for me!

[Figletf]

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[Pups2Cute]

Hi there, I can completely relate your worry. My Mom (a young 77years) recently had to change her treatment from Ibrance with letrozole (which was working very well for over two years) to Fulvestrant and trial med. She was no evidence of disease and a liver met was detected in her May scan. Her blood work is excellent and she has no symptoms but we are concerned about this change. She’s doing great with the new protocol and I hope it works for a long time. My Mom is my best friend and I find myself waking up in the middle of the night worrying. I know there are many good treatments out there and more are being developed. I’m sure your Mom will find a new normal that works for her. Best wishes and take care

[TammyCross]

Joint pain is one of the less common side effects of this med (usually given for ovarian cancer, though?). Back and side pain are also listed. It is sometimes hard to pin down the source -- bone or muscle or ligament? Or joint (which could be any of the former)? Hope it is that. You will soon know whether it is a worry or not, and then there is always something else to try.