My dad's funeral was on Monday. Yesterday was his birthday. For anyone who has lost a parent, these things take time. I feel blessed in that his funeral was very nice. I finished five treatments of radiation. The doctor wants my body to rest for two weeks, then I will go on Capecitabine or Xeloda. My cousin suggested that I look at "City of Hope" in case they had any further input, but I am like a poor church mouse so I couldn't afford out of pocket expenses. I am on Kaiser. It does not hurt to look into things just in case. Has anyone, had any experience with the City of Hope?
How is everyone doing? I think about this online group, am thankful for your relentless support. We need each other. Sending a virtual hug to everyone.
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I’m 66 and my mom has been gone 5 years, my Dad 14. I miss them so much. You are always your Dad’s little girl. Prayers for you and condolences. Have you ever called the American Cancer Society? There is a smaller breast cancer charity, the Tutu project. Maybe someone could give you a hand or a resource. How about SHARE? Rest up. Radiation kicked my butt. After a month I’m still tired. Sending a hug 💕
aaahhhh thank you for your sweet encouragement! I haven't called those organizations but out of curiously I probably will. I will say that I have been blessed by receiving assistance from Kaiser foundation. I am getting my feelers out, for other assistance or possiblities. I can tell the doctor is concerned which of course makes me concerned. Of course I need to hear the truth, rather than untruths. Thank you (smile).
Sending you love, prayers and condolences. It’s never easy losing a parent. No matter how old we are, it is still gut wrenching. Over time, the tears will lessen but it doesn’t mean we miss them less. Take time to grieve and mourn.
I think about my mom and dad every single day. Dad has been gone 26 years and Mom 11. I miss them both so much. I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs back to you.
My Dad has been gone for 35 years and I think of him all the time. It does get easier as I e day you will be thinking of him with a smile and not tears.
This group is a great support and supplier if I do. I’m in Canada so I don’t know about anything available in the US. I’m sure some ladies can help you.
I'm so sorry about your dad. It is never easy losing a parent. I was 25 when my mum died. I still have my dad. I hope that the radiotherapy helps push this disease back.
Take care,
Sophie ❤
Hi Susie. My thoughts are with you at this time. You sound like you are coping well.
Losing parents is hard! My mother died in 1985 from lung cancer. The expereince of being with her through that made me realize that on one level, having advanced cancer myself has been less upsetting than being the daughter of a cancer patient........ The loss is so profound! It makes me sad for my husband and grown daughter and step-daughters! I keep them informed and I am fortunate that I know they will be here for me. Mom's birthday was one week ago. My brother and nearly always talk on the phone then. This afternoon on my way to the grocery store, for some reason I was thinking about my mother and it hit me that if I live about another 4 years, I will have lived longer since she died than while she was living. That really hit me hard! She has been such a central person in my life and shaping who I am! In big and little ways! lol Some of the little ways are loving to bake and fondness for chocolate. Big ways are valuing education, being politically informed, and saving money! I parented as I had been parented and often joked that I was on auto-pilot as a mother! lol Susie, for those of us who had great loving parents, grief is often less complicated than for those whose relationship with parents was less than good. I hope you will be surrounded by love and support, and that good memories will sustain you.
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