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Sometime over night my beloved husband slipped from his frail body to a better place where he would not fall, could speak clearly once again, and his body regained his strength and vigor. I am heartbroken. I knew the end was near, but I didn't think it was today. When I woke, I couldn't believe he was gone, but our hospice nurse, my sister an a good neighbor mobilized to get me through the shock. For the first time in years, I am sitting here alone. I knew that would come, and I imagine what it would feel like, but this is a whole different kind of empty.

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Helen119 profile image
Helen119

What a very peaceful way to go, my thoughts are with you, pleased you have support around you and he will be with you always.

Love and hugs Helen xxxx

Sorry to hear.

Know the feeling all too well.

Grief is hard. It takes time.

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Baytalon in reply to

Thank you, Jeff. I know you know this feeling. I hate it.

Sending gentle hugs to you and your family... Granni B

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Kellsbelles

Ahhhh I’m so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your family xx

I am so sorry for your loss, and wish you well in your new chapter.

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Heady

Sending big hug and much love

Lots of love

Anne

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Brenive

My condolences to you and your family. .Brenda xxx

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Yvonneandgeorge

Thinking of you xxxx

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BamBam28

So very sorry for your loss, sending love and hugs your way xx

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Nanny857

So sorry for the loss of your dear husband and the emptiness you now feel. Just remember he will always be in your heart and that he is now whole again in a better place, afterall it's what he deserves after such a devastating illness.

Take care of you now and deal with one day at a time.

Sending lots of love,

Nanny857xx

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Baytalon in reply toNanny857

Forgive my language, but I hate this damn disease.

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Nanny857 in reply toBaytalon

No apology needed, in fact I thought you were very polite. I could think if worse but not printable 😂

Thinking of you, Nanny857xxx

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doglington

So sorry. We are never ready are we ?

As you say, he is now free. Just take it hour by hour.

Big hug from Jean xxx

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Tippyleaf

So sorry for your loss but relieved for you that he was able to slip away peacefully.

Take care of yourself, grief is whole new challenge

Love Tippy

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Jeas72

so very sorry for you loss x

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Martina_MP

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved husband, especially in the time of Covid when you might be isolated from the social support that people want to give.

Thank you for being open and sharing your experiences in your recent posts. It is very helpful to those of us who may be approaching advanced stage with our loved ones.

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racinlady

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Pat

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Dance1955

Sorry for your loss condolences to you and your family and hugs xx

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Hdee

Sending you love and wishes for some respite from your grief. Take care, Helen x

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Hiking13

Sending you lots of love - the journey of grief is a hard one, take your time, take each day at a time and just do what you want to do. You will smile and laugh again even though at this moment in time you probably feel that you never will. Try and focus on the good memories - nobody can take your memories away. Thinking of you.

Love Sarahxxx

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JCRy

I'm so sorry to hear your news. What a great photo to post, though! You look so united and bonded in love.

My husband is failing at the moment after major surgery. I'm not sure if he will pull through, as he is so weak.

Whatever happens, I know that the love will continue, as I am sure it is with you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Much love

Juliet.x

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AnneandChris

So sorry to read of your loss. Sending love and hugs over the pond to you.

Take care

Anne x

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lindaD_

so sorry but that is what gets us through this ,hoping that they are now free from this disease, my husband used to love running , i hope he is now doing this in a better place.love and hugs to youx

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Bettina545

So very sorry.....

I hate that grief too.

Sending you hugs and atrength❤️

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fishponds

So sorry sending hugs x Maggie

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Sam_S

So sorry for your loss!!

May He Rest In Peace!!

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Sunsetboulevard

I’m so sorry .... we never know when it will happen but he is released now from this nightmare existence . Take the kindness of friends and neighbours and take time for you xx

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AJK2001

So sorry to hear. Wishing you strength to get through the coming days....... xxx

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Kaka1234

Sorry to ready this, I lost my husband in April to CBD its heartbreaking.

Thinking of you x

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Sebuly14

Sending warm hugs to you .

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AliBee1

My heart goes out to you. How grateful he must be that he was beside you when he left and not alone. I quite understand how you feel about him not having a body that gave up on him. When my husband died in 2018 I wrote the poem below. I hope that it will give you comfort. My love goes out to you now as you start a completely different phase of your life. Love and hug AliBee.

Apologies to anyone who has read it before but it just seems appropriate.

His wicked sense of humour

will have now come to the fore

His love of birds and insects

will have now returned once more.

His ability to answer each and every quiz

will once more be in place,

and his laughing eyes and lovely smile

will now be on his face.

He is no longer crippled

by his horrible disease.

His legs will now obey him

so he can Morris dance with ease.

His voice and speech are better

so he can raise his voice in glee.

He can sing and laugh with angels

as his spirit is now free.

We cannot help but miss him

and feel sad that he has gone,

but we can’t be sad he’s been released

from his body which went wrong.

He did believe in heaven

and life beyond the grave,

so let’s give thanks we knew him

and thanks we know he’s safe.

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Baytalon in reply toAliBee1

Oh AliBee1, this is such a wonderful tribute to your husband. With you permission, I would like to share it with my husband's family.

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AliBee1 in reply toBaytalon

I would love you to do so. Take care of yourself. Big hug. AliBee xxx

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daddyt

I am so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and prayers are on their way.

Tim

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Ettavb

Very sorry to hear about his passing, sending virtual hugs.

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LostinHeadSpace

What a shock! Deepest condolences as you go through this.

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Espink50

Life goes on. Cherish the memories.

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Aurala

I’m so very sorry. Once in awhile my mind does go to “ trying on” this unimaginable aloneness and it’s unfathomable. Others completely understand. Wishing you peace.

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Baytalon in reply toAurala

Aurala, I, too, would sit quietly some evenings, after Steve went to sleep, and would "try on" the loneliness. When he was first diagnosed, I would collapse in my fear, uncertain of how I would ever bear it. In the past few months, as the reality drew near, the feeling brought sorrow and defeat. Now, I know the grief, but after the rush of tears comes a small smile as I make myself remember that he is free, this cursed disease has no hold on him anymore, he has found his peace.

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Aurala in reply toBaytalon

Thank you. That’s comforting to hear. Thinking of you.

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mjtogether

I am very sorry to hear of your husband's passing. I hope the memory of happier times fill your heart and mind to help get you through the lonely periods. As you say, he is walking, talking, and being in a far better place and at last free of this horrible disease. The grief, unfortunately, is now ours alone. God Bless.

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kpmdas

He will be safe with Him in his heavenly abode. We say Om Shaanthi Shaanthi (Peace be with him)

Curler profile image
Curler

So very sorry for your loss

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Adamxd

He's in peace now, free of that burden, free from that sick body, he's at a better place, relived, be strong, you should know he's no more suffering, & you should be proud of yourself being there all along that miserable journey, Life is made to be endured, we're all battling the same demons, until we're free from our defective bodies (mentally & physically)...

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Skye04

So sad to read your post..even when we try to prepare ourselves..it is still a shock...sending hugs and know you are being kept in our thoughts❤liz

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Marilyn_cbd12

Yes, and it is a numbing emptiness. I am so sorry for your loss, and for his long, hard journey to that better place.

Marilyn

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Kathrin87

So sorry for your loss,may he rest in peace

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Cuttercat

I join everyone in sending my deepest heartfelt sympathy.

He is safe now.

Cuttercat

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ncgardener799

Sometimes there are no words-just hugs. My sincere condolences and may peace come to you in the days ahead.

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acorneater

It will be hard and sad for you at times,I hope you have friends and family around to support you.

Take care,Acorneater

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kandk

Blessings to you for the loving care you gave him. He is at peace and though you grieve his loss forever, you also will find peace in the weeks ahead. It is time for you to rest, take your time to walk the path to gain back your strength and resilience. Heartfelt hugs embrace you in spirit. ❤ Kathy

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Gemmadog

So very sorry for your loss xx

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Y2U4

Sorry for your loss. I’m glad you have family and friends around you to help you in this difficult time. Praying for you and your family.

MaddyS profile image
MaddyS

Sending you love and hugs, Maddy xx

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Ovation1

My heart goes out to you,I lost my husband last year to this horrible desease and I know what you are going through xx

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Debspottery1

I hear what you are feeling. Prayers are with you.

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raincitygirl

Dear Baytalin,

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband.

Big big hugs to you for the grief you are experiencing and the time ahead. It is difficult but it is doable. Hang in there and know that many of us send you love and strength.

❤️❤️❤️

Anne G.

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bazooka111

So sorry for your loss ❤️

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