Good morning everyone
I received a message this morning from Nanny857 and have written a very long reply.
I have been able to manage what is happening in my home and it feels so good. At last I can see the end of having lodgers.
My daughter and Paul (her partner) are now looking for a home of their own. A lot of things have happened to bring this to a head.
I received a torrent of abuse from Fiona roughly 2 weeks ago. It has taken me until now to do something about it. I taught both my son and daughter to think before speaking in anger, if they would not like it said to them not to say a word. Words can't be taken back once said.
On Saturday I asked my daughter-in-law if we could talk and Stacey and Andrew came to see me. We are going forward and now we are going forward as a family again. This is a massive thing for all of us and I now have my son and daughter-in-law back along with my 5 grandchildren. We will take things slowly and move on. This is an enormous thing for me.
I have been able to research my finances and found that I have lost a lot of money by having my daughter still at home. This is now in the process of changing. I have never taken money from Fiona or asked for a weekly contribution. I have been stupid and I am now changing the rules.
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH
You gave me support and advice and I now know where I went wrong. I think.
I am grieving for Les and know there are peaks and troughs in grieving so I am not going to be so hard on myself.
Life at the moment is a work in progress and I now have the strength to face immediate problems.
I would not have been able to do this without the support and advice you all gave me and I will be eternally grateful. That may sound stupid but I just couldn't do this without you all.
Things are being sorted out and it feels good. I will keep you posted about important matters and muddle through the unimportant matters.
Thank you so much for being here for me.
Love and hugs
Pat xx