My first night w/o you

[greelycat]

Well, sweetheart, we made it through our first night apart.

I finally finished answering phone calls from all the people who didn't phone when you were alive. We all miss you so much. They cared, but they didn't know how to be around someone who could no longer communicate. They didn't realize you would have enjoyed just listening to them. Just having their company while you watched t.v.

After 36 years together, you will always be a part of my life. Even though I never cared much for jewellery, I am wearing your cross and your ring. They are my reminder to always make you proud.

Love always.

[D0ttieL0ttie]

I feel your pain. It is so true that people stay away, they cannot cope with seeing that person who has 'morphed' into something else. My daring Geoff has gone through so many changes during his 7 year battle with PSP and many people have gone by the wayside, however we embrace those that have stayed true.

You are showing courage, understanding and forgiveness for those that were not there for you both, not sure I could do the same. Stay strong sweet lady, it will get better, time will heal. xx

[Tippyleaf]

Sending love and hugs at this difficult time.

Tippy

[Hidden]

There is so much truth in your words... important lessons to share ... just being present is a gift... the gift of time. People need to learn that watching TV, reading the newspaper, or merely holding a hand of a hurting friend means so much.

Greelycat please be kind to yourself now as you travel through the grieving process. Holding his cross & ring sounds so very right... honoring your love. My heart is with you. Sending gentle hugs... Granni B

[Hiking13]

Sending you great big hugs xxxx

[LindaK12]

Yes people do stay away and sometimes I find this very hurtful. My husband would love to see someone other than me. My daughter is quite right when she says that they find it hard to see him as he is now ( She finds it difficult too). He is in hospital at the moment and hopefully coming out soon. I have had phone calls and e mails from friends bit not one has visited him.

[LuisRodicioRodicio]

A big hug.

Luis

[AJK2001]

One day at a time Greelycat and wow how proud would he be of you and your generous attitude to people who struggle to deal with taking time for a suffering friend.

I was always struck when I visited my brother in hospital, when one of my Mum's friends was in too, I would pop in and see her for a few minutes and I could never understand why years later her & her husband always remembered that and were what I thought overly thankful for it, but perhaps they too had "lost" friends along the way.

[Cuttercat]

You will find who your friends are. Most will never come back. There will be new people in your life.

Anyone who says people can’t handle sickness are giving excuses for what we used to do for each other in days gone past. This new world we live in pushes under the rug sickness and death so “they” don’t have to deal with it. Anyone get a hug on Facebook?? Never.

But we are here for you. Email posts are better than nothing and we understand

Love

Cuttercat

[daddyt]

He has heard every word you said. Smiling broadly as he looks down upon you.

Tim x