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He’s gone now and resting

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Hi all

Last night Archie finally gave in to this illness and so what a journey this has been I’ve had brilliant help with the carers and who has been helping throughout this last week I can safety say that I feel so relieved and exhausted but I will now get some rest

I thank you all for the advice and the support that you have given me over the time

Love hugs and kisses

To all

Sue xx

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Teeker

Dear Sue,

So sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences to you. At least now Archie is PSP free. He is in a happy and pain free place. May he rest in peace. May God grant you the comfort and strength to cope in the coming days. Sending you lots of hugs and love. Esther(Teeker)xxxx

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to Teeker

Oh Sue so sad and so sorry for your loss, he is in a much better place away from the horrible illness. Sending you a big hug. Yvonnexxxxx

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Suebatt in reply to Yvonneandgeorge

Hi Yvonne

Thank you and I hope thinks are ok for you both

Hugs sue xx

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to Suebatt

Sue we are ok, going through some horrible changes. Big hugs to you xxxx

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Cuttercat in reply to Yvonneandgeorge

Dear Yvonne,

We are going through changes as well. Won't open his eyes hardly at all but he's stable once again and I enjoy each moment with him.

Love you,

Cuttercat

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Yvonneandgeorge in reply to Cuttercat

Don’t you just hate these changes I am so tired xxxx love you too xxxxx

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Suebatt in reply to Teeker

Thank you

Hugs sue xx

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Marie_14

Oh Sue I am so sad for you. You have been a great carer and fighter for Archie all along the way. You must be so worn out? Archie is safe now and at peace. God bless him. It's time to take care of yourself sweetheart but you have so many friends on the site remember? There is still a battle ahead for you alone.

Please stay in touch with us all as you are such a valuable member of the site with lots of knowledge and we care about you.

Big hugs and lots of love to you.

Marie x

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Suebatt in reply to Marie_14

Thanks Marie for your kind words and I will always stay in touch

You also take care

Hugs sue xx

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Heady

Dear Sue, so sorry to hear that Archie has passed away. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.

I know what you mean about being relieved, it's so, so very hard watching your partner suffer so much and nobody being able to do anything.

Please make sure you get that rest you talk about. Recovering from what you have been through will take a while, plus grief is very exhausting. There is only one way to do this grief, that's your way. Nothing has to be done today, that can't easily be done tomorrow.

We are still all here for you in the dark days and months ahead

Sending big hug and much love

Lots of love

Anne

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Suebatt in reply to Heady

Thanks Anne

I agree with what you’ve said because with it being holiday weekend nothing can be done so I’ve been catching up on some sleep from now on it has to be onwards and upwards

Hugs sue xx

From one Sue to another,

My deepest sympathy to you. I'm sorry to read this but as we all say when we go through this, it is an end to all the suffering that our loved ones have gone through. Look after yourself.

Love Sue x

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Suebatt in reply to

Thank you sue

Hugs sue xx

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daffodil48

I am so so sorry. He is now at peace and you can get some well needed rest from the physical and mental stress you have had to deal with. Hope you stay. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family xxxxx

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Suebatt in reply to daffodil48

Thank you

Hugs sue xx

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Satt2015

Dear Sue I’m so very sorry but at the same time pleased that Archie is now free of this evil disease.

Sending much love to you my darling x

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Suebatt in reply to Satt2015

Hi Amanda

I am pleased too that he has passed .Sounds awful but he didn’t deserve this crap like many others who has it .I have had some great advice on here and I thank you all for it .I am going to to take my chimney off my head as the steam has all been let out

Hope in you and yours are ok

Love kisses and hugs

Sue xx

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Satt2015 in reply to Suebatt

Sue, it doesn’t sound awful at all!! I’d feel exactly the same, I know I would!! Huge hugs x

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margh2468 in reply to Suebatt

I know exactly (as do most of us here) where you are coming from, it is such a strain, watching and waiting for the inevitable. It certainly does not sound awful at all, a relief for you and for for Archie too. As much as we do not want to lose a loved one, when you watch and wait it is so so hard Hugs and love

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raincitygirl

My sincere sympathy to you Sue for this final loss. May Archie rest in peace. PSP/CBD robs us of so much. Its time to claim your life back.

Hugs to you for this grieving time. XXX

Anne G.

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Suebatt in reply to raincitygirl

Thank you Anne

Hugs sue xx

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aliciamq

🥀Wishing you and yours Peace🕊

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Suebatt in reply to aliciamq

Thank you xx

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Zeberdee

I am so sorry to read of your loss Sue. This dreadful illness takes everything bit by bit from our loved ones and having to watch this deterioration just rips at your heart. It is now time to take care of yourself and face adjustment along another road which has challenges but take it all a step at a time. A big hug for you. Jxx

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Suebatt in reply to Zeberdee

Thank you and I will

Hugs sue xx

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Spiralsparkle

Massive hugs to you.

Xxx

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Suebatt in reply to Spiralsparkle

Back to u too xx

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Dickenson2

Very sorry for your loss there has been so many lost there battle lately with this dreadful disease. It sounds as though you were fortunate in being able to keep him at home. Just look after yourself now xx

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Suebatt in reply to Dickenson2

Thank you I was unfortunately one of the lucky one to have 24 carers

Hug sue xx

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Brenive

Sorry for your loss. Will be thinking about you....Brenda. ..

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Suebatt in reply to Brenive

Thank you Brenda

Hugs sue xx

A big hug.

Luis

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Suebatt in reply to LuisRodicioRodicio

Sending them back to you too

Sue xx

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Katiebow

Dear Sue, I sit alone here reading that you have lost Archie and know the pain yet relief that you are feeling. Ben passed away two weeks ago and his Farewell Tribute isn't until until a week on Tuesday. You have to do the necessary arrangements, reporting his death to the various agencies etc when it's the last thing on earth that you want to be doing. I had my sisters with me for two weeks after he died and they took over all the domestic roles but now it's just me with my children and grandchildren two hundred miles away. I hope that you have family and friends nearby to help you through this, for me I think it will take time to get myself out there away from the bubble we lived in for the past three years, it somehow feels cosy and secure there. I do hope that you get some solace from the fact that you cared and nurtured for Archie making him feel loved.

Sending my love a warmest wishes Sue

Love Kate xxx

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Suebatt in reply to Katiebow

Hi Katie

Thank you for your words .at the moment my grandson is here and others are in and out

When things slowly get back to some normality and nobody here I can get up and go out that door and go visiting without knowing they’d no worries at home but 1st I’m going to get some much deserved sleep

Sue xx hugs

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Cuttercat in reply to Katiebow

Dear Kate,

Your mention of the bubble is where we are now. I like it and feel content but alas I dred the future.

Cuttercat

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Katiebow in reply to Cuttercat

Me too CC

xxx

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Katiebow

I hope sleep comes easily Sue, mine is all over the place.

K xxx

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Suebatt in reply to Katiebow

I haven’t slept right in 3 years but it will at some point

Sue xx

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homesupport223

Dear Sue

So sorry to hear of your loss. My sincere condolences to you. Archie is now free of pain. May he rest in peace. I do pray you will experience peace and strength . Sending you hugs.

Henry

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margh2468

Thoughts are with you through such a horrid journey. Take care now Hugs Marg H Howlong N.S.W. Australia

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Greens

Sue so sorry to hear of your loss this cruel illness is horrible love to you at this sad time and get time to yourself remember the good x x

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Birdman34265

Dear Sue

Sorry to hear of Archie passing away,to look after a psp patient is the most challenging job one has to do, you can be proud of yourself for doing it, you now have to recharge your life,it won't be easy,but with friends and family you will make it,all the best to you xx Peter and Kathy

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ladyalone

HI Sue I am so very sorry for your loss, take care of you now. Warm hugs...

Ladyalone

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Tillyhugs

I am so sorry. Thinking about you. Take care xxx

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Beads0122

Sue,

My heart aches for you and your family.

Bobby

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DeDeDickson

You have been grieving for three years as you anticipated this time. Now it is time to adjust to life as a non-caregiver. May your transition be filled with memories of healthy days goneby, friends’ and family’s support and encouragement, and lots of rest!

xoDorie

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JantheNana

Sincere condolences to you Sue.Life will be different now and you will take it one day at a time.As you said the first thing is to get some much needed rest You will be in my thoughts and prayers in the days to come. Janet

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Abrecheisen53

Sue,

So very sad to hear of Archie's passing. May peace now come to all.

Hugs, Alice

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daddyt

So very sorry for your loss, and do get some rest.

Tim xx

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LostinHeadSpace

Sue,

So sorry to hear. It sounds like you're completely wiped out, and no wonder. Hope you are still getting help with everything.

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Cuttercat

Dear Sue,

On this dreary day I read this and cried, but.............your post was so lovely, like you and it made me calm.

This journey is heartbreaking but the suffering is such that you want it over for them. Archie is free now.

Please know I've been praying and thinking of you all day and will continue to. Bless you!!

Cuttercat

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bryval

Dear Sue.

So sad for you but your attitude to this will probably help you. I could never accept that Valerie would go and when she did it hit me really hard.

It's been 9 weeks now and I'm still crying - not all the time but every now and again when something triggers it - like your news about Archie.

Coming from me this is a bit ironic but we must accept our loss and lead a new , different life. It's what our loved ones would have wanted.

This weekend will be a really emotional one as we are scattering Valerie's ashes where she asked - from a speedboat off the coast of Cornwall at Padstow !!!!

Love and hugs Bryan

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raincitygirl in reply to bryval

That sounds like a beautiful way to give her ashes back to nature, Bryan :-)

I hope it is a lovely day and creates a beautiful (if heart wrenching) memory XX

Anne G.

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Dadshelper

Take comfort in knowing he is finally at peace. You have my deepest condolences

Ron

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Megabrew88

Thinking and sending you love n light in this difficult time,

Mx

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Tippyleaf

So sorry for your loss. I am relieved to hear you have had good support. Take care of yourself as you embark on this new path

Sending love and hugs

Tippy xxxx

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Tttp

Dear Sue PSP and the bittersweet ending, hopefully he was in no pain and went peacefully, in one respect he is ended this dreaded disease, thinking of you I am sorry for your loss take care. Nettie

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Kevin_1

Sorry to be slow Sue

You were a seriously good carer. You are a great contributor here too. No-one could have asked for more.

I am sorry for your loss.

Wishing you a good journey through this painful time.

Warmly

Hugs

Kevin

xx

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Suebatt in reply to Kevin_1

Thank you Kevin I’ve had 2 days to recharge with it being bank holiday and now start to organise things it will be a bit strange going out cause I’ve not been out in 6 weeks but have my grandson with me at the minute

Hope you and Liz is ok

Sending hugs and kisses to you both

Sue xx

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Kevin_1 in reply to Suebatt

Hi Sue

Yes, it can get odd, going out after staying in for so long.

I hope the organising goes smoothly.

Liz is OK... she can still swallow. That is the cliff edge for us now. Misery.

Your loss and some others recently prompted me to write that post.

Thinking of you and Archie.

Warmly

Kevin

xx

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Julieandrog

My thoughts are with you, another journey for you all in some ways as hard. Give him a good send off, i found the funeral healing, seeing so many people who had loved rog.

Be kind to yourself, I had no idea grief was such a physical pain, buf now you need to rest.

Another star in the sky

Julie x

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doglington

Bit late on this, Sue as I have been away.

Sorry for your loss and I understand the mix of despair and relief. Its been a long road and you are exhausted.

I know its really strange to have " freedom " back and suddenly not want it or know what to do with it !!!

I know I felt so tired for ages. Still in a bit of a bubble.

Thinking of you. Lots of love from Jean xx

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Allan924

Sending loads of love and cuddles from Barry and Kim Allan. Rest in peace Archie xxxx

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