It is with mixed feelings that I have to tell you that my lovely husband, Pete, passed away 6/6/19. I know from the many posts I have read from people in my position that this is so common. Missing him terribly but so pleased that he doesn’t have to go through any more. It all happened very quickly. Wednesday night he had a game of scrabble with the carer then on the next morning I knew that I needed to get him to hospital. This was his first bout of aspiration pneumonia and he didn’t respond to the antibiotics and died very peacefully one week later. We had wanted Pete to be at home at the end but it would have been too traumatic to move him. The hospital was wonderful and we couldn’t have wished for a better end. The family were all with him constantly for the last three days and nights and there was just as much laughter in the room as there was tears. Pete was aware of all around him almost to the end. Thank you all so much for the posts that prepared me for this. My thoughts will always be with those still on the journey.
Margaret xxxx
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With the greatest respect, I am not one to try to find too many words at these times because quite honestly I don't think there are any adequate words to ease the pain of such loss. Your feelings will be mixed over the coming days, weeks, months. There will be relief, overwhelming sorrow, anger; life becomes very surreal - one journey has ended but another begins with all its twists and turns. Go with the flow, do it the way that suits you best, just don't drown and remember that there are people on here who really do 'get it' so don't forget to pop in when you need a lifeline. Heartfelt best wishes to you and your family. Hilsxx
I am so sorry to hear that Pete has passed away. May he rest in peace, finally free from this evil disease.
Take care of yourself now, this road is just as rocky and painful. It is one minute at a time. Caring is very tiring, grief is even worse, so make sure you rest a lot. There is only way to grieve and that's your way.
So many mixed emotions. I’m glad that Pete is no longer suffering and he’s at peace now, but at the same time I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you for finding comfort from this site. I hope that we’ll hear from you again at anytime. We’re here for you.
Maggie, this is a time when nothing really helps. All I feel is a bond and love for you. Sending you big bear hugs and wishes that help you at this time. Lots of love, Nergesh
Dear Margaret, it is so sad when they decide to leave this world but it's such a great relief to know they are no longer suffering the atrocities of these terrible diseases. The hard part now is coming to terms with your loss after nursing Pete during the course of his disease. Sending warm love and support to you at such a difficult time.
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hello I am the wife of a newly diagnosed husband joining your lovely supportive group.
Goodbye my love
Respite but not respite
