Last night I saw eyes filled with sadness.........

[Bargiepat]

Yesterday my recumbent exercise bike was delivered and my youngest son came over to assemble it. The instructions said it was a 2 person job and I was willing to help but my son insisted on doing it by himself while I sat in my chair watching. He was managing to do it on his own but I saw him glance over at me when he was doing something that the instructions said needed 2 people. My left hand was moving uncontrollably in a contorted way and he saw this. I saw in his eyes so much sadness and have not been able to get this image out of my head. When it was all finished and he was leaving he hugged me and said “ Daddy when you were well you would have done this without help ”

This probably won’t be the last time I see sadness in my children's eyes but at the moment they hide it well…..

The journey continues….

Love to you all,

Patrick.

[Satt2015]

Bless you Pat! 😓😓😓😓 x

[Helen119]

Aw Patrick, that is so sad and hard as you can’t even take it away from them, it’s good that your children hide it from you, but every now and then it will show.

Feeling for you

Love and hugs

Helen xxxx

[AliBee1]

Dear Patrick.

Big hugs. It is so hard for our families but how lucky we are to have them.

Love Ali B xx

[doglington]

Oh, Patrick, you're right. Its hard realising the pain for all the family and we can't relieve it. Its always hard for children when the balance changes as parents age anyway.

You are loved, Patrick !!!

Jean xx

[Tippyleaf]

Dear Patrick

I feel your pain, i do not want to brush this aside but I hope you also have a huge pride that you have a son in touch with his feelings and a clear love and respect for his father. Sounds to me as though you raised a fine man.

Good to hear you will be taking some cycle training too. Exercise is so good in PSP for body and soul. Hope you enjoy your new bike - one built with love

Sending you a big hug

Love Tippy

[BandT]

Hi Patrick

Thank you for sharing this. I am certain your son didn't wish you any sadness. I am sorry that this is happening to you.

This is a reminder to keep my "game face" on when I am with my dad.

B x

[Kevin_1 in reply to BandT]

Hi BandT

Sometimes its good to share the heartbreak too. In small ways.

That way the reality of the loss for all concerned is gently kept on the table. The reality recognised and not denied.

But, I expect you know all of that...

Best to you

K

[Yvonneandgeorge]

Patrick sitting here with tears in my eyes, so sad. Sending you a big hug. Yvonne xxxx

[Kevin_1]

Hi Patrick

What an poignant sad moment, eloquently written.

That sadness was love, of course.

I am so pleased you have so many people who love you and care.

However as you point out these damned illnesses break hearts as well.

I expect given your barging background you are very skilled with machines and stuff.

It must have been less than easy watching your son doing that for you.

You are a brave and determined man and your voice on this forum is such a good one.

Best to you

Kevin

[Bargiepat]

Can I thank you all....... since I have joined this group I feel I have added to my family .

Again thanks,

Patrick.

[Kevin_1 in reply to Bargiepat]

And you too are family for us.

Even now in your words, travels and great photography you share and give.

Thank you.

[honjen43]

Big hugs, Patrick!

Jen xxx

[Spiralsparkle]

Thank you for sharing this. It is really so insightful to read your posts.

We are family......sing along everyone.

Big hugs xx

[raincitygirl]

Bless your children for their empathy as well as helpfulness. You raised them well, Bargie 🌟💖

Anne G.

[easterncedar]

Nothing to add, just deeply moved. That's a good son you raised, Pat. Love, ec

[catherine_h]

hi Patrick, I too put together a reclined bike for dad a few months ago and tried to let him help.as much as I cud as I do with most things. that sadness in ur sons eyes was immense pride in knowing he has a great dad and that he feels bad in not being able to help u further. i had a similar "look" with dad a few weeks ago. he had had a few bad falls, and being a physio by trade I felt so bloody useless that I can't really stop his balance getting worse.

wishing u and ur family more of the positivity of being with each other in the here and now xx

[Karynleitner]

Good to hear you will be working hard to keep moving . Your children must also see your strength and perseverance. You are handling this horrible journey with honesty and humility. That continues to make you one of the strongest men around. 💜

You are a hero, and I’m sure they see it too.

[Allan924]

There will be sadness but sounds like they are pretty awesome at helping where possible..take care

[Zeberdee]

It’s amazing what our children see and it’s very hard to hide our feelings but we are very lucky to have them. Take care on that bike. Hugs to you Jxx

[daddyt]

I know that look all too well. I'm glad that you got the recumbent bike - make the most of it... I use mine daily.

Tim

[Marie_14]

Patrick hugs to you. None of this is easy is it? You are a great man and your son loves you so much. You are so very lucky to have love like that. You deserve it in spades! Get on that exercise bike asap! You give everyone such hope you know? I have had a little cry thinking of that poignant moment.

Lots of love to you.

Marie x