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Let's reclaim Valentine's Day!

Hi everyone,

I posted this in response to Ratcliffe's post, but Anne (Heady) prompted me to post it separately. And we all know Anne knows best! So here it is.

Sharon

This will be my first V-Day without Jonathan. He was always the more thoughtful one, buying me a card and a gift every year. I have kept all of them, but can't read them now as they just make me cry too much.

While I so understand the sadness that can come up today, I was thinking we could re-use V-Day for our own purposes. Yes, I know for the rest of the world today is all about mushiness and romance. And yes, of course that stuff is important. But actually, it's supposed to be about love. And who better than us to know what that really means? If going through PSP with someone isn't an act of the most profound love every single day, then I don't know what is. Love, the most authentic kind, is what kept me going through 5 long, hard years. It's what made me smile and choose to remain in what were often horrible situations, just to be with that one person who had so captured my heart.

So I think today should be about us being so proud of ourselves, and I certainly (through the sadness and the tears) will think about how lucky I was to have found that one amazing person. Too many people are never lucky enough to find that.

Hugs to all of you. I'll eat a chocolate (or 2!) for you all later :)

Sharon

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Lovely words that absolutely make sense! Enjoy that chocolate x

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Hugs back Sharon, enjoy the chocolate. Love Nanny857xx

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Well, I have taken Sharon's words to heart. Been out and bought dozen red roses. Tesco's best(PnP to you Sharon!), but they are what Steve would buy me! No chocolates, trying to lose weight for my holiday. But I will toast my love for Steve later on.

Happy LOVE day to everyone.

Lots of love

Anne

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Wonderful, , Anne! I'm sure the roses are gorgeous. I'll stick with my chocolates, I think. Jonathan always had a bit of a sweet tooth. Have a LOVEly evening 😊

P. S. I know Tesco well as I lived in London for a little while just after Jonathan was diagnosed. Wish I'd known you then.

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Sorry, I forgot that!

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Happy Valentine’s Day you all from Dubai xxxxx💕💕💕💕💕💕

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Dubai? Bloody hell, didn’t realise that’s where you were having a break Yvonne?! How wonderful!!!!!! X

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Yes it’s lovely xxxx

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Wowza!! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

Oh yeah, and bloody good for you!!!!! X

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Oh Yvonne, please, please bring back some sun with you. Hope you are having a lovely restful time.

Lots of love

Anne

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Will try wish I could pick you up and fly you out xxxx

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Wow Yvonne - hope you're soaking up the sun! 🌇🐪

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Yes on the beach xxx

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Yes !

When Chris questioned if I really loved him I used to say " If this isn't love I don't know what is "

He was actually very romantic so its difficult today.

Cheers to you all.

love, Jean x

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That's exactly what I meant, Jean! Hope it wasn't too difficult yesterday.

Sharon xx

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Hugs to you too Sharon. Enjoy the chocolates.

❤️ 🍷 🍫 XxxX

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Thank you, NannaB! They were yummy :)

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Oh this site is so good at just this: reframing our reality - taking charge of our hearts! I LOVE the title of your post Sharon!.

Well done you :-)

Anne G.

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Thank you, Anne. If nothing else, PSP has forced me to constantly re-examine my point of view. It's so true that even when you can't change your situation, you can always choose your response to it. Extra hug for you :)

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This is my 2nd without John! He was a soppy romantic when it came to choosing cards and flowers! Not so much at other times.

Good to remember what he was really like!

Will remember from bow on on Valentines Day for all the right reasons! Thanks!

Hugs

Jen xxx

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Maybe he was secretly soppy all the time but too much of a 'man' to let it show? So on Valentines Day he could let it all out :) I loved it when my big, strong, manly man would let his sensitive side show. xx

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