I posted this in response to Ratcliffe's post, but Anne (Heady) prompted me to post it separately. And we all know Anne knows best! So here it is.
This will be my first V-Day without Jonathan. He was always the more thoughtful one, buying me a card and a gift every year. I have kept all of them, but can't read them now as they just make me cry too much.
While I so understand the sadness that can come up today, I was thinking we could re-use V-Day for our own purposes. Yes, I know for the rest of the world today is all about mushiness and romance. And yes, of course that stuff is important. But actually, it's supposed to be about love. And who better than us to know what that really means? If going through PSP with someone isn't an act of the most profound love every single day, then I don't know what is. Love, the most authentic kind, is what kept me going through 5 long, hard years. It's what made me smile and choose to remain in what were often horrible situations, just to be with that one person who had so captured my heart.
So I think today should be about us being so proud of ourselves, and I certainly (through the sadness and the tears) will think about how lucky I was to have found that one amazing person. Too many people are never lucky enough to find that.
Hugs to all of you. I'll eat a chocolate (or 2!) for you all later